My Friends Asked Me to Officiate their Wedding - What Should I Do?!
Published: Thursday, Oct. 31st, 2019
Here’s why it matters where you get ordained, and what your responsibilities are as a wedding minister.
Asking a friend or family member to officiate has become as common as picking bridesmaids. But even with millions of Americans getting ordained to perform weddings, most folk don’t really know what ordination means. Too often, they say “yes” without realizing what they are signing up for.
Let’s talk about what ordination really is, and what your responsibilities are as a wedding minister. But before we get into the details, I want to remind you that we’ve made getting ordained free and easy for a reason – it’s a rewarding and transformative experience that lets you celebrate love and build community. That’s what matters in life, and as they say, the best things in life are free.
So, what is ordination?
Ordination is a contract or agreement between a religious organization and a person that empowers said person to lead religious services (in our case, weddings) on behalf of the organization.
Wikipedia says that ordination is the process by which individuals are consecrated, that is, set apart and elevated from the laity class to the clergy, who are thus then authorized to perform various religious rites and ceremonies, but what that basically means is that they give certain people the authority to do speacial things in their name. The Catholics ordain priests to lead congregations and mass. American Marriage Ministries ordains ministers to solemnize marriage.
Other churches, temples, and places of worship ordain ministers to perform all sorts of religious ceremonies. Here at AMM, our liturgy (that’s the ceremony) is the wedding. When we ordain someone, we are saying, “we give this person the authority to perform weddings as one of our ministers.”
We ordain people online. Methodists do it in a building. Pagans do it out in nature. It doesn’t matter where or how one is ordained. What matters is that it is a spiritual agreement between a religious organization and a person.
Ordination, it's an agreement between a religous organization and a person that gives him or her certain rights.
What does a wedding minister do?
Ministers have all sorts of responsibilities, from teaching classes to organizing charities, but you have a job, social commitments, and other stuff that keeps you busy, so we make it much easier. As a wedding minister, your job is pretty straight forward. You solemnize weddings. In theory, that’s pretty simple because all that’s really required is a statement of intent (that’s the “I do” part), saying, “I now pronounce you…” and your signature on the marriage license.
Of course, creating a memorable ceremony requires a little more effort than that, and we make sure you are well trained. But really, that’s it. All you need to do is get ordained, create a ceremony that the couple is excited about, and the go up there on the big day and perform.
Being a wedding minister takes all the fun parts of being a minister and packages them into one fun, exciting day.
Taking all the fun parts of being a minister and packaging them into one fun, exciting day
Should you get ordained?
An agreement requires at least two parties to agree to something. Our hand is extended to all who sincerely wish to celebrate love and community by joining couples in marriage. The rest is up to you. If this speaks to you, our door is open. It doesn't matter what you believe, where you come from, or who you love. As long as you want to celebrate love and community by joinung couples in marriage, then we're going to be a great fit!
We do things differently here at AMM. Unlike some churches, we give you the tools to translate your passion into success. Once you get ordained, we offer free training materials, and sell books that guide you through the process of planning and delivering a ceremony. Ordination is just the beginning.
We make sure that you are able to do justice to your calling, and that you can create memorable ceremonies that inspire others. If you’re still reading, then you’re probably a great candidate for online ordination. So, here you go, click the link and let’s write the next chapter together!
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