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Published: Friday, Mar. 12th, 2021
By Jessica Levey
It’s a common refrain among wedding officiants, and it’s some of the best advice engaged couples can get. Soon-to-be-weds often feel so pressured by friends and family while planning their wedding that they lose sight of what they actually want -- and end up with a ceremony that says little about them as a couple.
But as the #WeddingRules hashtag (now trending on Tik Tok) reveals, younger couples aren’t about to let tradition, convention, guilt, or obligation keep them from having the wedding of their dreams!
These users are sharing their top “Wedding Rules”, the ultimate dos and don’ts for their future weddings.
From simple to surprisingly specific, these rules cover everything, from the guest list to etiquette, and from wardrobe to what’s on the menu (or definitely off it). Some are lighthearted (ie: everyone must bring a snake and a stranger), while some are very serious (wearing white or the same color as the bridesmaids will result in being personally dragged out of the venue by the bride…).
1. @greggori will be wearing a tux - skirt combo (which is going to look tight as f*ck while everyone else is stuck in unflattering, obligatory pants) to dance with their partner to at least one Ed Sheeran song.
2. @aubandbay insist on no babies, no beef, and no drinking until after the ceremony is over (otherwise what’s the point?!). And their dog will be part of the wedding, so deal with it.
3. @flossybaby wants a gift, and you better show up ready to recite a Nicki Minaj verse, or you’ll probably end up in the parking lot next to those unfortunate guests who make spotlight-stealing announcements or wear white.
4. @ohmyisabel2 tells guests they better be crying, and they better be dancing… keep the hora moving! No song requests, ok?
5. @asweazy brings a few very relatable rules: don’t wear white, don’t show up without an invite, don’t bring a random plus one, and don’t grab the mic if you aren’t sure you’re part of the close friends-and-family inner circle.
6. @jayandlaura aren’t feeding the world, so don’t bring any unnecessary kids or family members! And tears of joy while the bride walks down the aisle are mandatory, so you better be ready to cry!
7. @crabsmasher isn’t taking things too seriously… But if you’re at their wedding, you better be ready to eat a lot of string cheese while dancing with your snake (and/or your stranger of the day).
My Wedding Rules 🌸✨ #weddingrules♬ Marry You - Bruno Mars
With over 35 million views at the time of writing, the #WeddingRules hashtag, which started in February, has been wildly popular. If you’re curious what young couples are prioritizing for future weddings, visit TikTok #WeddingRules (you don’t need a TikTok account to view these).
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