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#WeddingRules TikTok trend reveals what young couples REALLY want

Published Friday, Mar. 12th, 2021

Cover image via TikTok: @jayandlaura

By Jessica Levey




Your wedding, your way… right? 


It’s a common refrain among wedding officiants, and it’s some of the best advice engaged couples can get. Soon-to-be-weds often feel so pressured by friends and family while planning their wedding that they lose sight of what they actually want -- and end up with a ceremony that says little about them as a couple. 


Younger couples, especially, know this struggle all too well. 


But as the #WeddingRules hashtag (now trending on Tik Tok) reveals, younger couples aren’t about to let tradition, convention, guilt, or obligation keep them from having the wedding of their dreams!


These users are sharing their top “Wedding Rules”, the ultimate dos and don’ts for their future weddings.


From simple to surprisingly specific, these rules cover everything, from the guest list to etiquette, and from wardrobe to what’s on the menu (or definitely off it). Some are lighthearted (ie: everyone must bring a snake and a stranger), while some are very serious (wearing white or the same color as the bridesmaids will result in being personally dragged out of the venue by the bride…). 

But hey, we’ll let them tell you themselves, their way.






1. @greggori will be wearing a tux - skirt combo (which is going to look tight as f*ck while everyone else is stuck in unflattering, obligatory pants) to dance with their partner to at least one Ed Sheeran song. 



nobody asked actually #greenscreenscan #weddingrules

♬ original sound - marcus greggory


2. @aubandbay insist on no babies, no beef, and no drinking until after the ceremony is over (otherwise what’s the point?!). And their dog will be part of the wedding, so deal with it. 



Wedding rules😏 #wedding #weddingrules #rules #TrulyGlowingSelfieLove

♬ Monkeys Spinning Monkeys - Kevin MacLeod


3. @flossybaby wants a gift, and you better show up ready to recite a Nicki Minaj verse, or you’ll probably end up in the parking lot next to those unfortunate guests who make spotlight-stealing announcements or wear white. 




♬ original sound - jay


4. @ohmyisabel2 tells guests they better be crying, and they better be dancing… keep the hora moving! No song requests, ok?



couldn’t fit them all in one video but here’s my best attempt ##fyp ##wedding ##weddingrules

♬ original sound - Isabel


5. @asweazy brings a few very relatable rules: don’t wear white, don’t show up without an invite, don’t bring a random plus one, and don’t grab the mic if you aren’t sure you’re part of the close friends-and-family inner circle.



##greenscreen Period. ##weddingrules ##NewYearNewMiO ##WinterFit ##WithoutTellingMe

♬ original sound - A-Sweazy


6. @jayandlaura aren’t feeding the world, so don’t bring any unnecessary kids or family members! And tears of joy while the bride walks down the aisle are mandatory, so you better be ready to cry! 



WHO AGREES?😅 ##couplegoals ##fyp ##foryou ##weddingrules ##viral ##wedding

♬ Monkeys Spinning Monkeys - Kevin MacLeod


7. @crabsmasher isn’t taking things too seriously… But if you’re at their wedding, you better be ready to eat a lot of string cheese while dancing with your snake (and/or your stranger of the day).



My Wedding Rules 🌸✨ #weddingrules

♬ Marry You - Bruno Mars




With over 35 million views at the time of writing, the #WeddingRules hashtag, which started in February, has been wildly popular. If you’re curious what young couples are prioritizing for future weddings, visit TikTok #WeddingRules (you don’t need a TikTok account to view these). 



Individuality in the wedding ceremony is something we wholeheartedly believe in here at AMM! We support all couples’ right to celebrate their union in a way that’s aligned with their values and beliefs, and side by side with the people who are most important to them.


Get ordained with us today and learn how to perform marriage in your state. 


Want to keep your wedding your way? Check out these helpful articles! 




Jessica Levey
Jessica Levey

Lead Staff Writer & Illustrator

Jessica loves exploring the history and magic of ritual, the connections between people and places, and sharing true stories about love and commitment. She's an advocate for marriage equality, LGBTQ+ rights, and individuality, and is an ordained Minister with AMM. When she’s not writing or illustrating for AMM, she enjoys city hikes, fantasy novels, comics, and traveling.

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