How to Choose a Wedding Venue That Welcomes & Supports You

Picking a wedding venue is one of the most exciting parts of wedding planning, but this essential task can get overwhelming fast if you don’t understand the basics – things like average venue cost, common factors to consider, what to look for during venue visits, and which questions to ask before you book.

 

Since your venue might end up being your largest single wedding expense, it pays to prepare.

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Typical steps to choosing a wedding venue:

 

• "What's our budget and wedding size?" This step is about understanding average venue costs in your wedding location, and drafting an early guest list to get a headcount. 

 

• "Which venues are even realistic for us?" This is the step where you get honest about what you're able and willing to pay, and make a list of venues that could realistically work for your wedding size and budget.

 

• "Now let's go evaluate those venues!" This step is about making site visits, taking venue tours (in person or online), calling venues with your list of questions, and researching venues based on your personal needs.

 

• "We narrowed our selection, and this is the one!" This step is about choosing between two venues (or more) on your list, weighing the options, and falling in love with the venue that balances budget, needs, and dreams!

 

 

Below is a brief look at what to consider to help you accomplish each step, followed by a "wedding venue questions checklist." You’ll find advice on cost and budgeting, what to consider when evaluating venues and talking with venue staff, and a simple venue questionnaire to get you headed in the right direction. 

 

Think of it as a friendly introduction to the wedding venue experience! 

 

 

(Photo:  Pedro Pulido / Unsplash)

 

 

1. How much does a wedding venue cost?

 

Before we get into the details, take a quick look at the average wedding venue cost across the U.S. to help you understand what most couples are paying in your area. Deciding how much to spend on a wedding venue is a deeply personal choice however; many couples spend much more, and much less (or no money at all), on their venue.

 

Keep in mind that the number of guests, time of year, and day of the week all influence venue prices. Larger event spaces generally cost more than small, intimate venues. And the most popular wedding dates also cost more – with weekends during peak-wedding season (May - October) commanding the highest costs. Consider an off-season elopement or weekday wedding with a smaller guest list to save money.

 

Related: How Much Does the Average Wedding Cost?

 

 

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2. Will wedding venues negotiate the price?

 

Surprisingly, many wedding venues will work with you to book a date and time you can afford. But like most business negotiations, success will require compromise on both sides – so you’ll have to be flexible to make it work. Simply asking for a discount (or, please don’t, demanding one) won’t work. Here’s what might:

 

• Ask about off-season rates and weekday bookings: Some venues offer discounted rates for dates that are historically hard to fill. If you’re flexible about your wedding date, this can be a big win for you. After all, booking a wedding at a lower fee is better than no booking at all, and they know it. 

 

• Ask about a cancellation waitlist and last minute bookings: As the experts over at The Sixpence point out, some venues may offer you a discounted rate on services if you’re open to a last-minute booking. If another couple cancels their wedding on short notice, you and the venue can find the silver lining in the situation by celebrating your wedding instead! This is especially beneficial for the venue if they’ve already arranged in-house vendors or refreshments that you can use.

 

• Compare wedding packages and stay flexible: Take a close look at the venue’s offered packages to see what each price point includes. What are you willing to compromise on? Some venues will reduce the price of a higher-tier package if you’re willing to skip certain high-effort services. On the other hand, some venues are more willing to include low-cost add-ons for free in order to secure your booking. 

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3. What to consider when choosing a wedding venue?

 

Everyone’s venue needs are different, but there are some common things to consider when you meet with staff. Here are a few considerations to help you ask the right questions as you narrow down your dream venue. We include a checklist of venue questions below too! 

 

• Base price vs add-on fees, aka “hidden fees”: When discussing cost, clarify what’s included in the venue’s base price – the site rental fee – and which services are add-on fees. Ask about additional required fees too, like wedding insurance, damage deposits, gratuities, taxes, service fees, etc, as these are not always included in an initial site rental price.

 

Many common items aren’t included in the site rental, but will be included in your final bill. For example, does the venue provide tables and chairs for the ceremony space, or are they considered an additional “equipment rental fee”? Does your quoted rate include full use of the space, or will patio use, kitchen access, or trash-removal cost more? Don’t assume – always ask about add-ons so they don’t turn into unexpected hidden fees. 

 

 

• Location and transportation: Consider how your guests will arrive at your venue (and get home safely after an afternoon of free wine and cocktails), and whether they’ll need a place to stay nearby. Then, discuss options to make the process easier with your venue’s help. 

 

For example, some luxury venues offer a shuttle service as part of the wedding package, or for an additional fee. They may have a preferred vendors list that includes a local taxi or limo service. Or they may be able to suggest nearby public transportation options that you aren’t aware of yet. Ask about parking availability and cost, overnight parking options (if needed), as well as affordable lodging recommendations or room block discounts for out of town guests (especially if the venue is remote, or you have many out of town guests).

 

 

Getting the groomsmen to the wedding venue in style! (Photo:  Van Space / Unsplash)

 

 

• Inclusion & Guest Comfort: Every couple and their guests deserve to feel welcome and respected on the wedding day. If inclusion is important to you, ask your venue about their policies and practices. Are they welcoming toward the LGBTQ+, interfaith families, interracial families, and people with disabilities? What are their policies regarding the use of communal spaces like bathrooms and changing areas for LGBTQ+ patrons? 

 

In some areas, recent laws affecting transgender people's right to use gender-aligning bathrooms or changing rooms may extend to private businesses and event spaces, including wedding venues. These laws can create added concerns for transgender guests and can lead to legal penalties and personal harm (including fines and jail time). If you or your guests may be affected, ask specific questions about the venue’s values and policies before you book with them.

 

 

• Preferred vendors and vendor restrictions: If the venue has its own in-house vendor list, they might require you to hire vendors from that list. Ask about vendor restrictions during your conversation, especially if you have your heart set on a specific bakery, wedding officiant, or DJ for your celebration. If you want recommendations for great vendors in your area, ask if they provide a preferred vendors list with photographers, caterers, and more.

 

 

• Weather contingencies, cancellations, rescheduling: Life rarely goes as planned, even on the wedding day. (Especially on the wedding day!) Ask your venue what happens when unexpected things come up, like bad weather or illness. 

 

Ask what happens if weather forces guests indoors on the wedding day, or if you have to cancel due to illness or a personal emergency, or if the wedding needs to be rescheduled for a later date. What if the venue is forced to cancel your event, or closes for business unexpectedly? These details – and any refund or fee expectations – should be included in your venue’s contract as well; always read the contract carefully to make sure what’s written down matches what was explained to you. 

 

 

• Accessibility: Many wedding venues market themselves as accessible to people with disabilities, but this description can mean different things to different people. During your chat with venue staff, clarify which areas of the venue are accessible, and for whom – especially if you or your guests need specific accommodations.

 

For example, some venues offer wheelchair accessible parking spots, or maybe a ramp entrance, but other areas aren’t accessible to folks with mobility aids – including bathrooms, garden areas, changing rooms, etc. Also, the “accessible” label often overlooks other types of accessibility and disability completely, so ask about quiet areas, available ASL interpreters/staff, signage, assistive listening systems, allergens, and other accessibility tools if you or your guests need them. 

 

Learn more about how to plan accessible weddings: 

• Do Wedding Venues Have to be ADA Compliant? Here’s What to Know
• How to plan an accessible and disability-friendly wedding ceremony
• Sensory-Friendly Wedding Ideas for a Comfortable, Joyful Day

 

 

(Photo: Ellie Cooper / Unsplash)

 

 

• And dozens of smaller details you might overlook while planning: 

 

• Does the venue allow open flames (for your unity candle ceremony)? 
• Can you have live music (for your cousin’s song during the ceremony)? 
• Are animals allowed (so your dog can walk you down the aisle)? 
• Can you bring in your own decor (so your witchy wedding altar is possible)?
• Are incense and aromatics allowed (for your wedding smudge ceremony)?
• And other details like this, that make your wedding personal but won’t be covered in a standard brochure. 

 

 

Wedding Venue Question Checklist

 

This checklist is only meant to be a starting point. Wedding venues are often a couple’s largest single wedding expense – ask as many questions as needed to feel confident about your choice.

 

A detailed vendor / venue questionnaire is included in Navigating Your Ceremony, a wedding planning guide written by AMM Minister Officiant Amber, available from the AMM Store: 

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Basic Venue Information

 

☐ Is the venue available on our preferred wedding date?
☐ How many weddings does the venue host per day?
☐ How many guests can the venue hold?
☐ Is the venue available for ceremony and reception?
☐ Are there separate spaces available for: ceremony, reception, dancing, smoking section, etc?
☐ How long will we have access to the venue on our wedding day?
☐ Can vendors arrive early for set up, is this extra?
☐ When does cleanup need to be completed and the last person out?

 

Personal Venue Information

This section will be different for everyone, but be sure to ask about personal touches that matter to you. 

☐ Can we bring our dog to the wedding?
☐ Can we use candles and incense in our ceremony?
☐ We want a live band, are there any noise / vendor / performer restrictions?
☐ How many outside decorations can we bring?
☐ And so on!

 

LGBTQ+ Venue Information 

 

This section may be especially important for couples living in certain parts of the country. Heartbreakingly, a few states have recently passed strict laws that ban transgender people from using bathrooms that correspond to their gender. These laws can extend to private venues, including wedding venues, and carry possible fines and jail time.

 

☐ Are you LGBTQ+ inclusive and welcoming? 
☐ What are your policies and practices for transgender guests in your space?
☐ Do you welcome all couples and all families in your venue?

Cost & Payment Questions

 

☐ What is the base site rental fee?
☐ Are there discounts for weekday, off-season, or last-minute bookings?
☐ What’s included in the total venue rental price?
☐ Are tables, chairs, linens, decorations, speakers / screens, or other equipment included?
☐ Are there additional fees we should expect?
☐ Does the venue require wedding insurance?
☐ Are there service fees, taxes, admin fees, or specific gratuity requirements?
☐ Are there overtime fees if the wedding runs late or vendors leave late?
☐ What is the payment schedule? (monthly installments, lump sum, etc)
☐ How much is the deposit, and when is it due?
☐ Is the deposit refundable? (and under what conditions)

 

Weather & Emergency Plans

 

☐ What happens if the weather affects our plans?
☐ Is there an indoor backup space available?
☐ Is there an additional cost to move indoors?
☐ What happens if we need to cancel or postpone our wedding for personal reasons?
☐ What happens if the venue must cancel or close unexpectedly?
☐ Are rescheduling options available? (cost, availability, etc)

 

Wedding Vendors & Services

 

☐ Do we have to use the venue’s preferred vendors?
☐ Can we bring our own wedding officiant, caterer, photographer, DJ, etc.?
☐ Are there extra fees for using outside vendors?
☐ Does the venue provide catering or bar services?
☐ Are there minimum spending requirements for food and beverages?
☐ Are there restrictions on decorations, music (amplification / live music), candles (open flame), or other personal touches?

 

Wedding Guest Experience & Accessibility

 

☐ Is there enough parking for our guests?
☐ Is parking free, or is there an additional cost?
☐ Are there transportation options nearby?
☐ Does the venue offer shuttle services?
☐ Are there nearby hotels or lodging options for guests?
☐ Does the venue offer room blocks or lodging discounts?
☐ Which areas of the venue are wheelchair accessible?
☐ Are bathrooms, ceremony spaces, and reception areas accessible?
☐ Are there quiet spaces available for guests who need a break?
☐ Are there accommodations available for guests with specific accessibility needs?

Venue Contract Questions to Ask Before Booking!

 

☐ Does the contract include everything discussed with venue staff? (if not, revise the contract before you sign!)
☐ What is the cancellation policy?
☐ What is the rescheduling policy?
☐ Are there penalties for changing our wedding date?
☐ Are all fees clearly listed in the contract?
☐ Are there any rules or restrictions we should know before signing?
☐ Who should we contact if we have questions before the wedding day?

Final Decision Questions to Ask Yourself Before Booking

 

☐ Does this venue fit our budget?
☐ Does it fit our guest count?
☐ Can we picture our wedding day happening here?
☐ Will our guests feel welcome and comfortable here?
☐ Can the venue and staff accommodate our special needs?
☐ Does the venue support the vendors and wedding style we want?
☐ Did the venue staff answer our questions clearly and honestly?
☐ Do we understand exactly what we are paying for?
☐ Are we comfortable with any compromises and adjustments required to book this venue?

 

 

(Photo: Steward Masweneng  / Unsplash)

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