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Stay up to date with the latest wedding ceremony trends, script writing inspiration, tips and advice for first-time officiants, and news that matters to couples and wedding ministers.
Published Tuesday, Jan. 17th, 2023
The concept of marriage has been around for as long as humans have gathered together for support and love – which is to say, a really long time.
In the beginning, all ‘marriages’ were essentially common law marriages. Couples were simply declared to be married by their families or themselves, and began to live together, forming alliances, joining resources, tending to the home, and raising children. Most of these first unions were agreements between two families, rather than two individuals.
As centuries passed and societies grew, meaningful rituals like handfasting blossomed around the celebration of marriage. Early marriage rites were closely linked to the turning of the seasons, yearly harvests and fertility celebrations, and offerings to gods and spirits.
Related: Handfasting, From Ancient Rituals to Modern Ceremonies
A handfasting with colorful symbolic ribbons, photo by Christelle Leboucq
Marriage rituals became progressively more complicated in modern eras, with the increasing recognition of women’s rights; the need to protect and provide for children; concerns over inheritances, estates, and property division; and new oversight by churches and local governments.
The involvement of governing institutions in marriage expanded, such as the practice of ‘calling banns of marriage’ by the Anglican and Catholic Churches. ‘Calling banns’ was a public announcement of an upcoming marriage, usually made for 3 consecutive weeks by a priest at the couple’s church. Sometimes, these banns (or proclamations) were put in writing and published.
Related: Pagan Wedding Blessings for Every Season and Ceremony
By the end of the Middle Ages, written marriage contracts had become a regular part of the marriage process.
The marriage license had arrived!
Still, common law marriages remained the standard practice for most families, who didn’t have great wealth or property to think about. These ‘informal’ marriages would continue to be legally binding and widely accepted for several more centuries, even as the popularity of written contracts increased.
One of the first marriage licenses recorded in the United States was in the 17th Century, around 1639, in colonial Massachusetts. Marriage licenses were adopted by various local governments over the following years, with each state passing their own laws to determine who could apply, and how.
Related: What is the Difference Between a Marriage License and Marriage Certificate?
By the 1900s, marriage licenses were a common part of the marriage process in every U.S. state. They were embraced as an easy way to maintain census data, settle disputes, and in some states, to enforce anti-miscegenation laws and bans against interracial marriages.
These days, only a few states still recognize common law marriages, and meeting the criteria for common law marriage can be difficult. All states have provisions in place for the application, issuance, completion, and return of marriage licenses, but these vary from state to state.
Thankfully, bans against issuing marriage licenses to interracial couples and same-sex couples have been overturned by cases like Perez v. Sharp, Loving v. Virginia, and Obergefell v. Hodges, and protected by new measures like the 2022 Respect for Marriage Act.
Now, all couples can apply to marry and be issued a marriage license in the state where they live.
We support marriage equality for all couples!
Updated December 5th, 2024
Everything you’ve ever wanted to know about the marriage license process! Including who applies for a license, how to fill out and sign a marriage license, who returns the license to the clerk to be filed after a wedding ceremony, and more.
An intro to informal and common law marriage, including what common law marriage means and which states allow these informal marriages.
What is common law marriage and where is it recognized? Click the article linked above to learn more.
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