A Sample Quinceañera Ceremony Script for non-denominational Christian, slightly-religious, or non-religious civil ceremonies

 

Congratulations on your upcoming quinceañera celebration! 

 

This ceremony script is written for a slightly-religious and non-denominational quinceanera celebration (Christian), and can be easily modified for interfaith or non-religious civil celebrations. (It does not include a traditional Catholic Mass or a separate religious service.) Follow this ceremony with a reception and dinner, cake cutting, and dancing! 

 

Bible quotes and religious wording in this script appear in (parentheses). These phrases are optional and can be removed for a non-religious ceremony. 

 

This ceremony can be presided over by an ordained minister or professional officiant / celebrant, by the honoree’s father, or by another close relative or elder.  

 

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Quinceañera Order of Events

(The outline below may vary depending on location, family tradition, etc)

 

• Procession / Entrance
• Officiant’s Opening Words / Introduction
• Quinceanera Traditions & Family Blessings:
• Three Rose Ceremony 
• Godmother & Grandmother Toasts
• Presentation of High Heels / Shoe Ceremony
• Father’s Toast
• Tiara / Crowning Ceremony 
• Presentation of the Last Doll
• Mother’s Toast
• Presentation of Gifts from the Court of Honor
• Honoree’s Toast / Quince Toast
• Officiant’s Final Blessing
• Father-Daughter Dance
• Cake Cutting
• Party! 

Photo:  diego / Adobe Stock

Above: Quinceaneras can be small and private, or large and lavish, just like weddings! 

 

 

NonDenominational Quinceañera Ceremony Script

 

Make it your own: Omit the wording that's in (parenthesis) to modify this script for a non-religious civil ceremony. Add details and stories from the honoree's life to personalize the celebration, get creative with your toasts, and make it your own!

 

 

Procession

 

Guests are traditionally seated around banquet tables for a dinner and reception during the quince ceremony. After the ceremony, they will continue eating and drinking, and of course, dancing! 

 

The processional music marks the start of the ceremony. The minister/officiant is positioned at the front of the ceremony space as the honoree and her family/ attendants enter.

 

Quinceañera processional order: The order of the processional will vary depending on family tradition, preference, and level of formality. It’s common for the honoree’s parents to walk down the aisle first, followed by the padrino and madrina (optional), which are godparents or beloved elders, and the Court of Honor (the honoree’s closest friends, her chosen damas and chambelanes). The honoree is escorted by her Chambelan of Honor. In some cases, the Court of Honor will enter first and line up to greet the parents and padrinos as they enter. 

The honoree is usually seated in a special chair at the front of the banquet hall, or she might stand with her parents and court.

 

 

Photo: kali9 / iStock

Above: An honoree and her Court of Honor

 

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Opening Words / Introduction 

 

The minister/officiant welcomes guests and says a few words about the meaning of the quince as a ‘life cycle ritual’, a rite that celebrates a young woman’s ‘coming of age’ and journey into adulthood. 

 

Religious vs. Social significance: If the ceremony is religious and Christ-centered, this spiritual purpose can be emphasized during the introduction with additional quotes from scripture, the singing of hymns, and group prayers. If the ceremony is only slightly religious or non-religious in nature, then the officiant may emphasize the social, cultural, and familial aspects of the quinceanera ritual instead. 

 

Officiant

 

“Beloved friends and family, we’re gathered here today (in the presence of God) to celebrate _____’s 15th year, as she commits to (her faith and) her future as a beautiful young woman. 

 

As we begin, let’s take a moment to honor those who can’t be with us today. We pause to remember (and say a silent prayer for) (Names of deceased loved ones, for example Abuela Ruth, Tia Gloria, and Tito Alex), that we will hold them in our hearts today, as we do always. 

 

We know that they are so proud of _____ today, (as they look down on us from Heaven.)

 

• Brief pause for a moment of reflection or quiet prayer.

 

The quince años celebration is a time of joy and anticipation, new challenges, growth, and discovery. It marks the transition from childhood to adulthood, with all of the excitement and responsibility that maturity brings. 

 

(It is a time to recommit the heart and mind to God, and to take up the words and actions of a godly woman.)

 

It’s a celebration of family, a blessed bond that is renewed every day and can never be broken. 

 

And it’s a perfect time for a party! There will be cake and dancing very soon – so don’t go too far and save some room for dessert.

 

Many of you have known _____ since she was a young child. 

 

She was a (describe the honoree’s personality) child. She loved (list a few of the honoree’s favorite hobbies or interests). No doubt each of you has a favorite memory of her, a funny story, or a special moment together. Think of those memories today, as we honor another happy time! 

 

Over the years you’ve seen _____ grow into an incredible young woman – (pure and) true of heart, smart, capable, strong, and beautiful, inside and out. 

 

(Corinthians reminds us, “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a woman, I put the ways of childhood behind me.”)

 

Today, _____ holds these memories close to her heart, but releases childish things to embrace the promises and responsibilities of adulthood.”

 

 

Photo: martinedoucet / iStock

Above: The birthday queen, sweet 15!

 

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Quinceañera Traditions & Family Blessings

During this portion of the ceremony, relatives and friends will step forward to present the Quinceañera (honoree) with symbolic gifts. The minister/officiant will indicate when it’s time for each person to step forward and may say a few words about the symbolism of the gift.

 

In addition to the gifts and traditions described below, the honoree may also be presented with a Bible or rosary by her grandparents, a ring (to be worn on the right hand as a promise of faith), and a watch (placed on the left wrist). 

 

Officiant 

 

“But adulthood doesn’t mean you’re suddenly on your own, or that you walk alone. 

 

_____, look around you. These are your people! Your family, your friends, the people who love you most in this world and who have your back no matter what. They’ve raised you, watched over you, fed you, and made you laugh. They’ve challenged you, comforted you, and supported you. 

 

Continue to lean on them as you find your footing in the world (and walk the path God has chosen for you). Ask questions, ask for help, and keep learning! Remember that you are a loved and cherished member of this family forever! 

(Most of all, trust in your faith. Keep Christ and His teachings at the center of your life and there is nothing you can’t accomplish. You cannot lose your way with God’s love in your heart. 

 

Philippians tells us rightly, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”)

 

As you become the woman you are meant to be, be good to yourself, to your family, to your neighbors, and to your friends. Lead by example, carry your head high, and act with love and kindness. You will go far.”

 

Tradition One: Rose Ceremony

 

In this tradition, three women will present the honoree with a symbolic rose. Each rose is in a different stage of blooming and carries a different meaning.

 

 

Officiant

 

“We have a few symbolic traditions to celebrate this transition, and we’ll need help from friends and family members to perform them! 

 

At this time, can (Names of the three women) please step forward for the Rose Ceremony. 

 

These three roses in different stages of bloom symbolize three important concepts – the innocence of youth, the knowledge of right and wrong, and the temporary beauty of youth. 

 

_____, let these roses, given by strong and gentle hands, remind you of the wheel of life, the wisdom and guidance of previous generations, and the lasting beauty of a full (and moral) heart.”

 

 

• The three women step forward. These will be the honoree’s mother or maternal guardian, a godmother or grandmother, and another close female elder. 

 

• Each woman carries a rose and passes it to the honoree. The mother/maternal guardian carries a rose in the bud; the godmother or grandmother carries a partially open rose; and the third elder, usually the oldest of the three, holds a rose in full bloom. They present the roses in turn to the honoree.

 

 

Godmother & Grandmother give toasts

 

• The women may also make short toasts to the honoree, offering words of encouragement and love. 

 

 

Above: gammaphotostudio / Adobe Stock

Honorees might also receive a symbolic quinceanera ring along with the rose ceremony

 

Tradition Two: Presentation of High Heels / Shoe Ceremony/ Changing the Shoes

 

For this tradition, the honoree’s father, paternal guardian, or parent helps her change out of flats or sneakers into stylish high heels. The honoree is seated in a special chair at the front while she changes shoes. 

 

Officiant 

 

“Next, I invite (Name of honoree’s father), _____’s father to join us for the ‘changing of the shoes’ tradition. 

 

(Name of honoree’s father), you’ve helped _____ every step of the way, (and taught her to walk humbly with God, just as the Lord requires  – “to be just, and to love, and to diligently practice kindness, compassion” as we walk with Him. (Micah 6:8)) 

 

_____, your dad offers his continued support today, as you take your first steps as a young woman. These heels symbolize your maturity, your womanhood, and a confident path ahead.”

 

• The father or elder presents the heels and helps her change shoes. 

 

 

Father’s Toast

• Personalize this toast with dad’s special memories.

 

“When you were young I used to worry about you all the time because you’d go running off in the store, hiding in the aisles and generally trying to give me a heart attack. You’d run off to play with friends as soon as you were old enough, coming home sweaty and dirty from kicking butt at soccer practice. Now look at you! Beautiful. So grown up. I’ll probably always want to protect you, but I trust you, mija. You’re not a little girl anymore. You’re dating now, Lord have mercy on us! Don’t go easy on them… You’re a brilliant young woman, and I am so proud of you.”

 

 

Photo: hectorfabio / Adobe Stock

Above: A father places high heels on his daughter's feet during the quinceanera's Changing of the Shoes ceremony. 

 

Tradition Three: Crowning with Tiara

 

For this tradition, the honoree’s mother, maternal guardian, or elder will place a symbolic tiara on her head, making her an honorary ‘princess’ for the day, and crowning her in faith in the presence of God. 

 

Officiant

 

“Now, (Name of honoree’s mother), _____’s mother, will help us with the quinceañera crown.” 

 

• Honoree’s mother lifts the tiara and places it on the honoree’s head.

 

“_____, this crown represents your strong character, full heart, and clever mind. You are (a daughter of God, beautiful in His eyes, and) worthy of great things. 

 

(Let God keep you as His child through your faith in Christ Jesus, “and since you are his daughter, God has made you his heir.” (Galatians 3:26 and Galatians 4:7) Wear this crown proudly, and like its shining jewels, you “will shine among them like stars in the sky.”” (Philippians 2:15))

 

• The honoree’s mother places the tiara on her head. Afterwards, she’ll continue standing up front so that she can help with the next tradition and make her toast. 

 

 

Photo:  moodboard / Adobe Stock

 

Tradition Four: Presentation of the Last Doll

 

During this tradition, the honoree’s mother or elder hands her a special doll. This doll is often dressed in a dress similar in style or color to the honoree’s, and may even look like her, with similar hair color and features. 

 

Officiant

 

“_____, you’ve left behind the toys and trinkets of childhood. These things brought joy when you were young, but now is the time to pick up the tools and tasks of womanhood – in your family, in your community, (and in the church). 

 

The tradition of the ‘last doll' symbolizes the sweet simplicities of childhood. Carry these memories with you, and let their joy be the foundation from which deeper joys may grow.”

 

• The honoree’s mother presents the ‘last doll.’ 

 

 

Mother’s Toast

• Personalize this toast with mom’s special memories.

 

“When you were young, I bought you lots of dolls to play with. Barbies and American Girl, and even Latinistas, even though you were probably humoring me when I picked her out for you. I remember those days, so long ago now, when you would braid their hair and give them crazy outfits. But today you’re not a little girl anymore. You are a beautiful woman. I’m so proud that you’re my daughter! You’re funnier, smarter, way more confident and sure of yourself than I ever was at your age, and the most passionate young woman I’ve ever met. I can’t wait to see the waves you make in the world and what you do next. I love you!”

 

 

Photo:  Erick Blue / Adobe Stock

Above: A symbolic doll is placed on a table, ready for the 'last doll' ceremony

 

Tradition Five: Gifts and Flowers from the Court of Honor

 

During this tradition, the honoree’s damas and chambelanes will present their gifts or flowers to the Quinceanera honoree. They might give small gifts, or hand the honoree flowers. White roses are traditional, but any small tokens of friendship is appropriate.

 

Officiant

 

“It’s almost time for dancing and cake, I promise! 

 

_____, you’ve felt the love of your family, but you also have the support of many friends and peers. These special people, your court, are your chosen family and will help shape your future. Pay special attention to the people you welcome into your life, choose your friends carefully, and honor them with your care and compassion. 

 

Dear friends in the court, please step forward and show your support!”

 

• The court of honor steps forward and offers their gifts one at a time. 

 

 

Photo: Image Source / iStock

Above: Friends in the Court of Honor present the honoree with small gifts for her quinceanera birthday celebration

 

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Quinceañera Honoree’s Toast / Quince Toast

 

This is the honoree’s turn to speak! During this optional portion of the ceremony, the honoree makes a few promises for the future. In a religious ceremony, these promises are usually reaffirmations of faith, renewed commitments to Christ, church, and community, and promises to lead a good and just life. This portion of the ceremony is optional. 

 

Officiant

 

“Before the final blessing, _____ has a few words to say.” 

 

Honoree’s Toast / Quince Toast

• The honoree reads a short prepared speech, as part of the Quinceanera Toasts tradition. An example of what to say is written below, but let the honoree use the language that feels right to her! Every generation has their own lingo; encourage her to speak from the heart in her own words / wording:  

 

“Thank you all so much for coming to celebrate my Quinceañera. I feel loved and honored to have you here, and for all the effort and time you have put into making this day come true. I’ve been dreaming of this day for a long time, and it’s here! 

 

I have good role models, the women in my life are amazing. Thank you to my tias and Abuelita, and to Cousin Isabella. And thank you to my mom, Gabby. I love you so much. I’ll do my best to be independent, fierce, beautiful, and smart like you have all shown me how to be.

 

To my court, you guys are the best friends I could ask for. Thank you for making a really stressful day way more fun, and making sure I didn’t lose my dress or my earrings, and for the memes. You know! 

 

(And I want to thank God for this incredible celebration, and for giving me the best family. I’m so grateful for my church and for the word of Jesus Christ to guide me. It’s not always easy to keep faith, and I know that there will be challenges, but I’m excited to face them. God makes all things possible!”) 

 

Thank you again to everyone here. You mean so much to me and thank you for coming to celebrate with me!”

 

 

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Final Blessing

 

Officiant

 

“_____, today and each day, carry the love and support you’ve felt here with you. Congratulations on 15, and here’s to many, many happy years ahead! 

 

(May “the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. And may He lift up his countenance upon you, and give you peace.” Wherever life leads you, carry Him, and all of us, with you!)

 

Now let’s party!”

 

• The ceremony is usually followed by a father-daughter dance, a cake-cutting, and lots of fun. 

• Have a great time! 

 

 

Photo: deserttrends / Adobe Stock

 

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Looking for more examples of what to say when officiating a quinceanera? 

 

• Check out this script by Adrian Olivas, on the Mama Knows How to Throw a Party blog: Christian Quinceanera Ceremony

 

• Or read this religious quince años ceremony written by Pastor Rod, aka Yankee Rev: A Gospel-Centered Quinceanera

 

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We spend a lot of time talking about wedding ceremonies here on the American Weddings blog. This makes sense... Marriage ceremonies (and wedding officiants) are awesome! And they’re our primary focus and passion. 

 

But AMM Ministers don’t just marry people. When they choose to, their roles can extend much further. Our ministers perform all kinds of rites, from weddings to funerals, baby blessings, name change ceremonies, quinceaneras, and more.

 

This deserves to be highlighted! 

 

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While many of our ministers only conduct wedding ceremonies, others also conduct other meaningful rites, like quinceañeras! 

 

Learn more about what it means to be an AMM Minister by visiting our FAQ page. 

 

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