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The Anonymous Officiant: Parents NOT Behaving Badly

Published Friday, Jul. 7th, 2023

A drama-free ceremony is the best wedding gift of all…



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“I officiated recently at the wedding of a couple who each had a complete set of parents and stepparents, and wanted all of these mothers, stepmothers, fathers, and stepfathers to participate in the pouring of sand during the unity sand ceremony.


Related: Blended Family Wedding Ceremony Script with Sand Blending Ritual

I watched the families gather for the wedding of their much-beloved (and I guess you could say multi-beloved) children, and just sent up a silent prayer that everything went smoothly and that everybody remained on their best behavior…

I could have spared myself a bit of anxiety. 

Regardless of what rancor might have existed in the past (and I did not ask, nor would I ever ask), not a whiff of it could be detected during the wedding itself. 


Illustrations of polaroid photos, showing newlyweds kissing, a large family taking a group photo, and a close up of several people pouring sand into a heart shaped vase during a unity sand ceremony

Illustration: Jessica Levey


Everybody paid attention to the words being spoken, and did their best to maintain an air of affectionate decorum for every part of the ceremony.

The gift those parents and stepparents gave the couple being married was an example of true community, and unselfish love. They put aside their own issues, and acted like truly loving adults. 

The photos will reflect smiles, genuine good will, and a magical couple of hours when everybody offered true best wishes and congratulations to a very sincere couple embarking on one of life's most important journeys.”

– Anonymous 







How to Perform a Unity Sand Ceremony (for Wedding Officiants)

Close up photo of a groom pouring colored sand into a clear vase during a unity sand ceremony at his wedding


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