The Anonymous Officiant: Parents NOT Behaving Badly

A drama-free ceremony is the best wedding gift of all…

 

 

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“I officiated recently at the wedding of a couple who each had a complete set of parents and stepparents, and wanted all of these mothers, stepmothers, fathers, and stepfathers to participate in the pouring of sand during the unity sand ceremony.

 

Related: Blended Family Wedding Ceremony Script with Sand Blending Ritual

I watched the families gather for the wedding of their much-beloved (and I guess you could say multi-beloved) children, and just sent up a silent prayer that everything went smoothly and that everybody remained on their best behavior…

I could have spared myself a bit of anxiety. 

Regardless of what rancor might have existed in the past (and I did not ask, nor would I ever ask), not a whiff of it could be detected during the wedding itself. 

 

Illustration: Jessica Levey

 

Everybody paid attention to the words being spoken, and did their best to maintain an air of affectionate decorum for every part of the ceremony.

The gift those parents and stepparents gave the couple being married was an example of true community, and unselfish love. They put aside their own issues, and acted like truly loving adults. 

The photos will reflect smiles, genuine good will, and a magical couple of hours when everybody offered true best wishes and congratulations to a very sincere couple embarking on one of life's most important journeys.”

– Anonymous 

 

 

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Related: 

How to Perform a Unity Sand Ceremony (for Wedding Officiants)
 

 

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• How to stop parents, friends, & relatives from taking over your wedding plan
   
• How to Include Family and Friends In Your Wedding Ceremony
   
• Our Favorite Ways to Include Moms and Matriarchs in a Wedding Ceremony
   

 

Illustration: Jessica Levey

Show your mother how much she means to you by including her in your wedding ceremony! Read the full article here. 

 

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