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The Anonymous Officiant: Use Your Gifts

Published Monday, Apr. 24th, 2023

This officiant reminds newlyweds to treasure their wedding gifts, and to treat every day as a gift, too



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“Use your gifts.” 

When my mom said it, she usually meant my creative gifts, or something equally as abstract.

As an officiant, when I say, “Use your gifts,” I’m talking about the coffee cups, tea towels, and all the nice things marrying couples are given as gifts to celebrate their new life together. 

I see a lot of wedding presents in the course of my work. But many times, the celebration never gets off the ground with the very items friends and family members have chosen so lovingly.


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Illustrations by Jessica Levey


I went to an estate sale recently, and I noticed that many of the items appeared to be wedding gifts from the 1960s, still in their original boxes -- unopened, saved, and put away until later. The antique dealers who definitely came later in this departed couple's life were delighted. 

I wondered how many holidays, or just rainy Tuesday afternoons, might have been made more special if somebody had worked up the courage to break out a stack of dessert dishes or light candles in the silver candle-holders.

Use your gifts. Get them out, put them on the table or in the bathroom, and make them a part of your existence. Life is very, very short. 

Observe each day as if it is a gift, too."


- Anonymous 






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