Gift Ideas for Your Wedding Officiant

What gift do you get the officiant of your wedding? Big or small, the right gift will say it all: Thank you for marrying us!

 

Wedding officiants devote an immense amount of time and effort to creating and perfecting the wedding ceremony. As a soon-to-be or newly wed, you realize just how important your officiant really is, but you're likely wondering how to show your gratitude. What gift do you get the officiant of your wedding? Is it even appropriate to give a gift? Are they expected? Do they even make thank you cards for wedding officiants?

 

 

"Do I need to give the officiant at my wedding a gift?"

 

Wedding officiant gifts are always appreciated, but never expected:

Our AMM Ministers tell us that gifts for officiating are never expected. But if a couple chooses to, a heartfelt gift feels wonderful to receive.

 

Consider your budget: 

Couples on a snug budget often send a handwritten note, personalized greeting card, or coffee card. Some couples choose to treat their officiants to a little pampering with luxurious spa days or a great bottle of wine.

 

Consider your relationship with the officiant:

Choosing the right gift can also depend on your relationship to your officiant, for example whether your officiant is a close friend or a professional officiant, and whether you are already paying them for their services. 

 

So, whether you’re saying "Thank you for officiating our ceremony," "Happy Holidays," or "Just Because," here are a variety of thoughtful wedding officiant gift ideas for any budget. 

 

 

Appropriate Gifts for Wedding Officiants

 

• A Heartfelt Thank You Note

 

Not all gifts come in wrapping paper and bows. If you don’t have extra funds in your budget for thank-you gifts, or you’re just plain stumped on what to give your officiant, a simple handwritten card or thank you letter will always be appreciated and treasured. Take some time to express, in words, your gratitude for the huge role your officiant has played in making your wedding ceremony so perfect. 

 

Use a blank greeting card, a nice sheet of paper, the back of a wedding photograph, or any other artful surface you'd like to write on. There are also artists and crafters out there making officiant cards, available on sites like Etsy and Society6 (among others), if that feels more your style. 

 

A few heartfelt words will mean the world to them. Start writing with this simple guide: 

 

• How to Write a Thank You Letter to Your Wedding Officiant (With Examples)

 

 

A simple heartfelt thank you card will mean the world to your officiant. (Photo: George Dolgikh / Pexels)

 

 

• A Cute Mug & Their Favorite Coffee or Tea

 

A fun, decorative "Best Wedding Officiant" or "Best Day Ever" mug makes a great wedding officaint gift! (We love this mug and this one.) Pair a cute mug with a bag of freshly-ground or whole coffee beans for a gift that will keep your officiant smiling for days! If your officiant prefers a good cuppa, opt for a loose leaf tea variety to present with the mug instead. They’ll appreciate the inspiration boost while sipping on a delicious dark roast during those long ceremony-crafting hours... And they'll remember you with a smile each time they pick up that World's Best Wedding Officiant mug!

 

 

Nothing gets those ceremony-writing superpowers activated like a delicious cup of coffee. (Or tea... we see you, tea lovers!) Let your officiant know they gave you the best day ever, with a mug that says it all! (Photo:  Lisa5201 / iStock)

 

 

• Make a Charitable Donation in Their Name

 

Charitable donations make great wedding officiant gifts, especially if you know your officiant is passionate about a certain cause, like LGBTQ+ advocacy or forest conservation or protecting ocean life. Consider giving a donation in their name to a charity or organization they support. Even a small donation of ten or twenty dollars is a beautiful gesture. Not only this thank you gift personal and meaningful, but it’s tax deductible, too!

 

If you need help choosing a cause, read about AMM's Charitable Activities and see the organizations we love to support as a 501c3 Non-Profit.

 

 

Donations of any size are a personal and meaningful way to show your gratitude to your officiant.

 

 

• A Copy of Lucky in Love by Eleni Gage

 

Say thank you with a unique gift that adds even more magic to their role as an officiant: A copy of "Lucky in Love," written by professional wedding officiant Eleni Gage and filled with lucky wedding traditions from around the world.  Professional officiants, lit fans, and hopeless romantics will truly LOVE adding this to their library. Not only does it have a whole chapter on how to perform a wedding ceremony, it’s full of gorgeous illustrations, wedding folklore, and beloved wedding customs throughout history. Wedding officiants love love (it's an occupational hazard), and they will love this book.

 

Pssst... your copy of Lucky in Love is available in our store with free shipping.

 

 

Lucky in Love is filled with beautiful illustrations and is an enriching and beautiful tribute to the countless wedding traditions and rituals around the world. (Photos: Illustration from Lucky in Love, and the book cover.)

 

• A Bottle of a Good Vintage 

 

Say thank you with something sippable: Be it whisky or wine or a sparkling nonalcoholic cider, those who partake will always enjoy a bottle of their favorite libation. Add a personal note card or tie a festive bow around the neck of the bottle to add a little extra personal flare.

 

 

A festive celebration in a bottle is a great way to say "thanks for officiating!"

 

 

• Beauty or Self Care Products

 

If you know your officiant is a bonafide fashionista, soaps and lotion lover, or meditation and incense enthusiast, consider gifting them with a small self care package. This might be an eyeshadow or face palette, a woodsy scented essential oil set, stylishly packaged hand or hair creams, or a sampling of hand dipped incense that's sure to rejuvinate their spirits. 

 

Many wedding officiants (and others in public speaking roles) put a lot of effort into their outward appearance and inward focus -- and they enjoy beauty, fashion, and relaxation. That makes a makeup palette or essential oil set a thoughtful, indulgent, and practical gift.

 

 

Self care and beauty kits can be a perfect gift for wedding officiants of any gender.

 

 

• A Decadent Massage or Spa Treatment

 

Give your wedding officiant a gift that helps them relax and unwind, like a decadent massage or spa treatment! As someone in the process of planning a wedding (or recently married) you know this for certain: Weddings are stressful for anyone involved. That means officiants, too, even when they love what they do.

 

For officiants that go above and beyond, a gift card for a therapeutic massage or a relaxing spa treatment will encourage them to take some "Me" time, to decompress and pamper themselves. If a friend or family member officiated your wedding, considering planning fun trip to the spa together, if you think they'd appreciate the company. 

 

 

Weddings are stressful for everyone involved -- help your officiant decompress with a gift card to a spa or massage. 

 

• A Glowing Business Review

 

In addition to one of the sweet thank you gifts mentioned above, don't forget to give your officiant a glowing review online as part of your thank you efforts. Professional officiants spend hours working on their portfolios and gathering ceremony photos and wedding videos to show other happy couples the kinds of ceremonies and services they offer. But when it comes to showcasing their experience, few things top a gold star review from a real, recently married duo. So shout their praises for all engaged couples to hear! 

 

 

When Choosing a Gift for a Wedding Officiant...

 

Remember, your wedding ceremony is the reason everyone is coming together. Folks will attend from near and far to celebrate you and your partner, and to hear your unique love story -- told by the one person you trust to do so in the most personal, meaningful way: your wedding officiant.

 

So don’t forget to thank them – along with your bridesmaids, groomsmen, and other wedding vendors – for the valuable time and energy they’ve dedicated to making your wedding day so memorable. Big or small, a gift is always an a wonderful gesture to show your gratitude.

 

 

Updated October 28, 2025

 

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Will You Marry Us? Gift Box

 

Our Will You Marry Us? Gift Box is the sweetest way to ask a loved one to officiate your wedding! This unique gift box includes everything your friend-officiant needs to perform your wedding ceremony - click the link above to see what's inside and order yours today. 

 

 

   

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