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Stay up to date with the latest wedding ceremony trends, script writing inspiration, tips and advice for first-time officiants, and news that matters to couples and wedding ministers.
Published Tuesday, Mar. 29th, 2022
If you’ve been asked to officiate a handfasting ritual as part of a wedding ceremony or vow renewal -- congratulations!
Handfasting ceremonies are one of the most romantic and meaningful unity rituals around, which is why they’ve remained a popular part of the marriage rite for thousands of years.
There are lots of ways to tie a handfasting cord, and no wrong way… But some methods are definitely easier than others!
If you’re planning a short wedding ceremony, don’t have time to learn a complicated new ritual, or are new to handfasting or officiating in general, the knots below offer a great no-stress introduction.
Handfasting is a unique wedding tradition with origins in traditional Celtic and Pagan rituals. During the ceremony an officiant or spiritual elder wraps a cord or ribbon around a couples’ hands during a wedding ceremony to symbolize commitment and spiritual union. The wording used in the ritual might be different depending on couple's beliefs or culture, for example the officiants in a Celtic handfasting ceremony, Wiccan handfasting, and Humanist handfasting will likely use different wording while wrapping and tying the cord - but the effect is the same!
To learn more about handfasting history and origins, check out our illustrated handfasting guide: Handfasting, From Ancient Rituals to Modern Ceremonies
Photo: Albina Kosenko / iStock
Handfasting cords can be any color or colors you choose! Many colors have symbolic meaning which can add to the meaning of the ritual. The pink cords above, for example, can symbolize a soft and gentle love when included in a Wicca handfasting ceremony.
This simple method is used to symbolize the blessings and gifts of marriage and looks fantastic in wedding photos. In this option, a handfasting cord or ribbon is wrapped and knotted around a couple’s clasped hands in the same way you’d tie a ribbon around a gift box.
Illustrations by Jessica Levey
This approach works best when couples clasp both of their hands together, or stack them, one on top of each other.
To complete the knot and bow: Drape the cord horizontally across the tops of the couple’s hands, cross the ends underneath and bring both back up to the top, tuck one end under the other, pull until they are snug, and then loop and knot to complete the bow. Quick and easy!
The ‘wrap around’ is a no-hassle option that works well for new (and nervous) officiants and short wedding ceremonies. In this option, the handfasting cord is wrapped – not tied – around the couple’s clasped hands, with the cord’s decorative ends draped over their wrists. Couples can use a single hand each, or both hands.
Illustrations by Jessica Levey
This method works well for short wedding ceremonies because the cord can be slipped on and off quickly. And officiants who are nervous about performing a handfasting in front of a crowd will love this option, because there are no complicated steps to remember!
Although there’s technically no knot in this approach, we’ve included it here because it remains one of the most popular options with couples.
This simple knot is so popular that we wrote an entire article about how to do it, linked below! The handfasting infinity knot (sometimes called an endless knot) is an ancient knot used for centuries in marriage rituals, to symbolize unending love and a deep spiritual connection.
Click the link below for a full tutorial on the infinity knot handfasting ritual:
The infinity knot
Follow the link above for step-by-step illustrated instructions on how to tie this timeless unity knot.
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For more inspiration on how to add handfasting to your non denominational, secular, humanist, or Pagan wedding ceremony – or to an engagement or vow renewal ceremony – visit these previous articles from our blog!
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Say yes to magic and romance with one of the most exciting ceremony trends – the handfasting ceremony!
This comprehensive handfasting kit is easy to use and comes with everything you'll need, including a copy of Handfasting, From Ancient Rituals to Modern Ceremonies, a copy of Navigating Your Wedding Ceremony, a hand-woven handfasting cord, a guide to tying an infinity knot, and more!
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