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Most Weddings Include a ‘Moment of Silence’ or Memorial Table for Deceased Loved Ones, Says New AMM Survey

Published Tuesday, Jun. 27th, 2023

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Most couples choose to honor deceased loved ones on their wedding day - learn how to prepare as a wedding officiant 



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AMM asked 150 soon-to-be-weds if they will include a ‘moment of silence / remembrance’ or memorial table in their wedding celebration this year, in order to honor deceased loved ones. 


44% of respondents answered that they plan to include a moment of silence. An additional 17% of respondents said they plan to honor lost loved ones in another way, such as a memorial table, photo display, or symbolic "In Memory Of" chairs. 


This means that over 60% of weddings this year will likely include a tribute to a couple’s deceased loved ones.



This pie chart is titled 'Will you include a 'moment of remembrance'  in your wedding ceremony'? And shows that 44% of people said yes, 17% said they would honor loved ones in another way, such as with a memorial table, and only 38% of people said they would not honor loved ones at their wedding

Survey Results: 'Will you include a 'moment of remembrance' in your wedding ceremony?'

45% of respondents said Yes; 17% said they would honored deceased loved ones in another way, such as with a memorial table or photos; and only 38% of respondents said they would not include a memorial of any kind in their wedding ceremony. 



This is useful information for our ministers and other wedding officiants, who may be asked to officiate a ceremony with a moment of remembrance, or to write a custom wedding script that includes a meaningful pause for this purpose.


Wedding officiants, take note: Wedding days are filled with big emotions, and this subject in particular might bring a few of those to the surface. Couples might ask to see examples of the wording you’ll use before the ceremony, or they might have suggestions on how to phrase this portion of the script. 


During a wedding ceremony, moments of remembrance often come after the Invocation and welcome, and before the Declaration of Intent. 


One simple suggestion is to say, 


“Let us take a moment to remember those who can’t be with us today, either because of distance or because they have gone before us. In particular, we lift up [Name any family members or others whom the couple chooses to memorialize.]”


The articles and wedding scripts below will help you prepare for ceremonies that include this meaningful element, including ideas on how to honor loved ones, and sample wedding officiant scripts for you to use: 






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Jessica Levey
Jessica Levey

Lead Staff Writer & Illustrator

Jessica loves exploring the history and magic of ritual, the connections between people and places, and sharing true stories about love and commitment. She's an advocate for marriage equality, LGBTQ+ rights, and individuality, and is an ordained Minister with AMM. When she’s not writing or illustrating for AMM, she enjoys city hikes, fantasy novels, comics, and traveling.

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