Published: Thursday, Mar. 31st, 2022

Pagan Weddings: Ideas for Offerings to Gods and Ancestors

Illustrated by Jessica Levey

How to make an offering to a god, goddess, spirit, or ancestor as part of the wedding ritual 




Symbolic offerings are a unique part of a Pagan wedding ceremony, and the tradition of offering gifts to gods, spirits, and ancestors can be traced back thousands of years. 


Everyday items take on extraordinary meaning in these ceremonies, whether placed on a marriage altar, burned in a ceremonial fire, poured onto hearthstones, or presented as part of a blessing ceremony.


Offerings are usually simple objects, such as herbs, fruits, wine, or cloth, that are chosen because they embody the qualities or blessings of a specific god or ancestor whose favor is desired. For example, fresh milk is a fitting offering for a god or goddess of the home, such as Brighid or Frigg, but wouldn’t be used to honor Mars, the Roman god of war. 


If you’ve been asked to perform a Pagan wedding ceremony, or are planning one of your own, use the list below as inspiration for meaningful offerings. 



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Other common ingredients in a Pagan wedding ceremony:  Offerings made to deities and spirits aren’t the only ingredients found in most Pagan weddings… Handfasting, sacred circles, candle lighting, and an abundance of natural beauty are also common, although these customs vary depending on whether a couple practices Wicca, Druidism, Asatru, or another branch of Paganism. You might also see couples jumping a fire, jumping a broom, calling on the four elements, participating in a stone blessing ceremony, or sharing in another special ritual or spell. 



How to make an offering during the marriage ritual: 



  • Offerings should be ‘used up’ or sacrificed during the ritual, such as being poured over a fire, burned, or left on an altar
  • Guests may wish to make their own offerings as part of a communal ritual or blessing
  • Offerings are usually made toward the end of the ceremony, but this is up to you and your priest / priestess/ wedding officiant 




Ideas for Offerings to Gods & Ancestors at a Pagan Wedding



Gods of Romance and Marriage 

(Aphrodite, Frigga/ Frigg, Hathor, Hera, Parvati, and others)


  • Lavender 
  • Myrrh 
  • Wine 
  • Red and pink flowers such as roses and hibiscus 
  • Apples and figs 


Gods of Fertility, Sexuality, and Abundance 
(Beset / Bes, Gefion/ Gefn, Freyja, Oshun, Cernunnos, and others)


  • Rosemary and juniper 
  • Yellow and gold flowers
  • Acorns and seed pods
  • Honey
  • Cooked meat


Gods of Home and Hearth
(Ancestral spirits, Brigid/ Brigit, Frigga/ Frigg, Hestia, and others)


  • Rosemary and thyme
  • Milk
  • Coins
  • Hand-spun fibers or wool
  • Home-cooked food and bread



Gods of Wealth and Good Fortune 

(Fortuna / Tyche, Hermes / Mercury, Toutatis, and others)


  • Clover and ivy
  • Frankincense 
  • Wine
  • Coins 
  • Incense




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