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Stay up to date with the latest wedding ceremony trends, script writing inspiration, tips and advice for first-time officiants, and news that matters to couples and wedding ministers.
Stay up to date with the latest wedding ceremony trends, script writing inspiration, tips and advice for first-time officiants, and news that matters to couples and wedding ministers.
Published Thursday, Oct. 27th, 2022
What does the future hold for you and your sweetheart as you join hands and leap heart-first into marriage?
Catch a glimpse of what married life will bring with this unique unity ceremony – a simple tarot spread on love and marriage!
This unique unity ritual harnesses the powerful wisdom of the tarot to help you and your sweetheart answer questions about the future, focus your intentions in the right places, and ensure lasting love and partnership that can weather any storm.
Each card in this spread provides insight into your individual strengths and weaknesses, and how to make use of that dynamic for a strong and resilient marriage.
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1. Partner One: The strengths and skills you bring to the relationship
2. Partner One: What you need from your partner / areas you need support
3. Partner Two: The strengths and skills you bring to the relationship
4. Partner Two: What you need from your partner / areas you need support
5. Your marriage: The essence of your shared relationship
6. Guiding principles for the future / Advice
This spread is adapted from a longer relationship tarot spread found here.
If the idea of tarot reading at a wedding intrigues you, but having your future told in front of friends and relatives makes you a little nervous, don’t worry!
This tarot spread only focuses on the positives of your union: the strengths and skills each of you bring to the relationship, how to support one another in the areas where you struggle, and how to work together to nurture a happy and loving marriage.
There’s no bad news waiting in these cards!
This ritual works best before or after the wedding vows, as a mystical spin on a traditional ‘charge to the couple,’ but can take place at any time during the ceremony. Like a traditional charge, these cards will remind you of the responsibilities of marriage and prepare you to work together, as you traverse the inevitable joys and challenges of years to come.
To see an example of a traditional ‘charge to the couple’ and wedding order, head here : Civil Wedding Ceremony With Charge To Couple And Confirmation Of Love
Your wedding officiant will start the unity ceremony by saying a few words about the purpose of tarot, its use as a symbolic or spiritual tool (if appropriate), and its importance in you and your sweetheart’s life. They’ll also explain the type of guidance the unity spread is meant to offer. This friendly introduction to the ritual will help guests feel included in the ceremony, even if they aren’t familiar with the practice of tarot.
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Next, your officiant will shuffle the tarot deck carefully, and when they’re ready, draw six cards. They’ll place the cards face down, one at a time, in the order shown above.
During the reading, your officiant will turn the cards over, describing the meaning and symbolism of each one, and how the cards interact with each other.
Here's an example of how your reading might look during the wedding ceremony:
Arrange your wedding altar or table with sage, herbs, incense, candles, crystals, stones, and any other meaningful objects or offerings... Love this deck? It's the Aquarian Tarot deck by David Palladini. (Photos by Jessica Levey)
Not an expert at tarot card reading, but still want to include this ritual in your wedding? Don’t worry, you don’t need to have every card memorized before the ceremony!
If your wedding officiant is new to tarot, we recommend a mix of loving intuition, whispers from the spirit guides… and a detailed tarot guide book.
There’s no shame in using a guide to interpret the cards to ensure you understand their meaning – your guests will be entertained either way. Reliable guides are available from your local Pagan shop, metaphysical supply store, library, or for use for free online. (Biddy Tarot and Labyrinthos are both easy to use online resources.)
Just make sure to choose the tarot deck and guide you’ll use before the ceremony, and familiarize yourself with the basic concepts of Major Arcana and Minor Arcana, and the areas of life each suit represents. This will help you navigate the deck more smoothly on the wedding day.
Friends and family members can get ordained online for free with AMM to perform your ceremony. Start the online ordination form here.
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