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Platonic best friends wed, redefining marriage with a love that transcends romance

Published Tuesday, Apr. 27th, 2021

Polaroids of two friends on their wedding day, laid out on a table with a daisy
Cover photo via Deidre Olsen's Instagram @deidreolsen, Image has been cropped

These soulmates chose an unconventional marriage, saying their anti-establishment love goes beyond romance. 



Chiderah and Deidre decided to get married after realizing that, although they weren’t a romantic couple, they had found in each other someone to build a life with. 
They’d been close friends and living as roommates in Canada when the COVID-19 lockdown started in their city. Soon they were spending hours together, talking and walking, and something just clicked for the two of them. 
“It was in that moment I saw myself and I saw our lives flash before my eyes and I said 'this is the person I want to build a life with,'” Chiderah told reporters at
The feeling was mutual. When Chiderah proposed to Deidre, they knew it was the right fit. “For both of us, romance has always subtracted more than it has added to our lives,” Deidre told reporters, “so we’ve been in this relationship and we’re so happy.” 
Deidre adds, “The depth of our relationship transcends romance for sure.” 
The best friends are free to pursue romantic relationships outside of their platonic marriage, and their bond gives them the security and stability they’d been looking for. They share a bank account, household responsibilities, meals, a rich and happy partnership, and other securities that conventional marriage provides. 

Read the full scoop in Tanyel Mustafa’s article for


photo is of Chiderah Sunny and Deidre Olsen, the two are wearing sunglasses and posing for the camera, via Deidre Olsen's instagram account

Chiderah and Deidre, Photo via Instagram @deidreolsen


Chiderah Sunny is a fashion model (@chiderahsunny101) and partner Deidre Olsen is a writer (@deidreolsen). The newlyweds currently share a home in Berlin. 
You can read Deidre’s personal account of why “unconventional coupling is the key to her happiness” in her recent piece for Shondaland:  Why I Married My Platonic Best Friend



Marriage on your own terms!


At AMM, we believe that every couple has the constitutionally protected right to enter into the institution of marriage on their own terms. We believe that all people should have access to marriage, regardless of their religion, sexuality, or other defining traits. 


Want to marry your best friend or aromantic soulmate and enjoy the benefits and securities of marriage while sharing your adventures and dreams together? Sounds wonderful to us.


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Jessica Levey
Jessica Levey

Lead Staff Writer & Illustrator

Jessica loves exploring the history and magic of ritual, the connections between people and places, and sharing true stories about love and commitment. She's an advocate for marriage equality, LGBTQ+ rights, and individuality, and is an ordained Minister with AMM. When she’s not writing or illustrating for AMM, she enjoys city hikes, fantasy novels, comics, and traveling.

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