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Asked to perform a wedding ceremony? Here’s why you should say “yes!”

Gay couple officiant

Tags: saying yes, public speaking, research

Tuesday, Feb. 19th, 2019

Being asked to officiate a wedding is an incredible honor. Full stop. No matter what happens from here on out, no matter how you answer, know that whomever is asking for your help thinks highly of you. Although preparing and delivering the ceremony may seem quite daunting, the fact is that it can be quite enjoyable. 

As always, the more prepared you are, the more fun you’ll have.

As the officiant, you get to celebrate the shared love of people who are close to you. It’s a chance to speak from the heart and tell the guests how awesome the couple is, and how special their love feels. There’s a reason your name came up when the couple needed an officiant, but like all decisions in life, this one should involve some thought. 

The ceremony sets the tone for the rest of the wedding, and how the guests see the couple. That means the position of officiant is not only fun, but very important. Don’t get us wrong. We think you’re perfect for the job, but we also want you to feel confident. Consider the following...

 

there's nothing more rewarding than celebrating love and building community...

 

Are you ready to put in the effort?

We recommend that you practice the ceremony in advance. If you are familiar with the ceremony, you will be more confident, and that means you’ll be more engaging. Officiants are like other public performers. They feed off the audience, and having a command of the script makes all the difference. 

Although you most likely won’t memorize the entire ceremony, being familiar with the words allows you to enjoy being the officiant and makes the delivery of the ceremony much more genuine.

Are you confident in front of other people?

Remember to smile. Speak slowly. Make eye contact and connect with the couple and guests. Nobody’s expecting you to be Frank Sinatra up there, but as the officiant, you should be projecting beautiful, happy thoughts since everyone’s emotions are being driven by you and the ceremony. 

One of the great rewards you will get during this experience, if you are connecting with the couple and the guests, is that you will feel the positive vibes coming from the audience. During a wedding, there is wonderful energy coming from every direction. Trust us, most folks get ordained to officiate just one wedding… that’s how it starts. Welcome to the club!

In conclusion, if you are asked to perform a wedding ceremony, and you say yes -- because you totally should -- take it as a great honor, but also have fun and enjoy the experience!

 

Cheers to you for setting the tone and making everyone glad they came!

 

And if you do say yes, we’ve got you covered! Check out our free online training tools to create a ceremony that fits the couple. Are you a paper and pen sort of person? We’ve got just the thing for you. Head on over to our store and check out our book on creating and officiating wedding ceremonies. With thousands of happy ministers using it every weekend, it’s proven it’s worth over and over again. 
 


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