Now that you know what to say and do as a wedding officiant, it's time to look the part.
Attire should always be discussed with the couple to make sure everyone is on the same page with expectations. Many couples will say, “Just be comfortable,” or “Wear whatever you’d like,” but you should still get as many details about their wedding as possible to determine what you will wear.
For example: Is the ceremony location indoor or outdoor? What will the weather be like? Is it a laid back, bohemian-feel event - or will there be chandeliers, tuxedos and cocktail dresses?
Couples hosting a casual backyard wedding might feel a little funny standing next to a very formally-dressed officiant, while those having a black-tie affair will likely not appreciate their officiant showing up in a hula shirt and flip flops. (Not to mention, officiants wearing heels will want to make sure they’re not sinking into a lawn while speaking!)
Truly, you should wear whatever you look and feel best in, but when in doubt: go for something neutral, but polished.
That said, if you want to make a statement, or just want that something “extra” to really define who you are and what your role is - there will be no mistaking you as anyone but the officiant if you wear a stole!
Stoles have long-since been worn by those who perform marriage. Traditionally, stoles are worn with ministerial robes. Choral and religious robes are very similar (the difference being the quality of detail, cut, and material), and simple choral robes are frequently selected by wedding officiants as a cost-effective alternative.
Today, however, you will find that many officiants simply pair their stole with one of the neutral or solidly-colored outfits mentioned above. The result is a modern, trendy and highly distinguished look.
Each occasion and season calls for something a little different. Simply take a moment to touch base and share your plans for attire with the couple so there are no surprises or complaints.
Finally, here are some general tips to keep your officiant attire stylish, comfortable and on point in every setting: