There’s No Such Thing as a Boring Wedding

Dear To-Be-Weds, don’t worry so much. There’s no such thing as a boring wedding.

 

 

If you spend any time on wedding planning forums, you’ve probably read dozens of posts from worried soon-to-be-weds, asking others like them how to avoid a boring wedding. 

 

Maybe you’re even one of them. 

 

“Help!” they all say, “How do I keep my wedding from being boring?”

 

Of all the things that might go wrong on the wedding day, it seems boring would be the kiss of death. 

 

This worry makes sense, considering the industry’s push to produce a ‘perfect’ personal wedding. Unlike the strictly formulated ceremonies of centuries past, today’s weddings have become a creative free-for-all.  

 

All this creativity is a wonderful thing, but it also puts a lot of pressure on couples to plan a wedding that’s completely unique, almost hyper-personal, something that’s unmistakably ‘them.’ With just a little extra effort, the wedding blogs all say, they’ll be able to keep family and friends entertained and engaged from the moment they arrive until even the most formidable party-animals slide into a rideshare car and call it a night. 

 

Heck, even we fall into this pattern sometimes. Everyone does! It’s easy to be swept up into the pure excitement and joy of planning a wedding ceremony.

 

 

But here’s a secret we wish every couple knew: 

 

There’s no such thing as a boring wedding ceremony. 

 

 

Photo: Hannah Busing / Unsplash

 

 

No, really. There’s no such thing as a boring wedding ceremony. 

 

There’s nothing boring about you and your partner taking a leap into the unknown together.

 

There’s nothing boring about the two of you making a commitment to love and respect each other as you build a future together.

 

There’s nothing boring about gathering together with your friends and family to celebrate your love; or eloping, just the two of you, to exchange your promises privately. 

 

No matter how you go about it, there’s nothing boring about the start of a marriage.

 

See what we mean? 

 

Keep this secret in mind any time you feel overwhelmed by wedding planning, or worried about what your friends or relatives might think about your ceremony: Whether you go big and formal, nerdy and nontraditional, or keep it short and simple –if you like your wedding, and you’re able to marry the person you love, that’s pretty freaking exciting. 

 

And if you’re excited, your friends and family will feel it, too. 

 

Photo: Carly Rae Hobbins

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Things to think about instead…

 

Instead of worrying about whether or not your wedding ceremony’s boring, consider these things: 

 

• Does it reflect your values? Does your ceremony reflect the things you value in a marriage? Consider themes like love and honesty, faith and cooperation, trust and humor, or compassion and kindness. You can reflect on these sentiments in your marriage vows, or ask your wedding officiant to talk about their importance during the ceremony. 

 

Related: 5 Great Reasons to Ask a Friend to Officiate Your Wedding

 

• Does it fit your budget? Consider whether your wedding plan fits your budget – both your financial and emotional budgets. If you want to go big, by all means go big! But don’t feel pressured into planning a wedding that will cost you more money, time, or serenity than you can comfortably spare. You’ll have years to celebrate your marriage with each other, any way you choose.

 

• Are the important people included? Are the people you love included in ways that will leave them feeling appreciated, and keep you feeling supported? If your guest list includes your most beloved friends and relatives, you’re all set. 

 

The rest is just icing on the cake!

 

Photo: Chris Dickens / Unsplash

Consider your shared values, wedding budget, and the people on your guest list... the key ingredients for a fantastic wedding!

 

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Read Next: 

 

• Choosing a Wedding Officiant: What (or Who) Are Your Options?
   
• How Much Should You Pay a Friend to Officiate Your Wedding?
   
• Three tips for planning a WTF (Wedding that Fits) Wedding Celebration
   

 

Consider the look and feel of your wedding so that you and your wedding planner are on the same page. Read the full article here. 

 

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