Now that you've nailed down the what, when, and where, it's time to get started on the ceremony itself. Before you begin writing, we recommend you follow these steps.
Block out at least an hour. Put on a timer. Go to our website. Oh, you are here! Read through our ceremony training pages. This is not complicated stuff, but it is important for you to understand. After reading through our materials, particularly our Wedding Ceremony Parts page, you will have a solid understanding of:
At this point you could begin writing but before you do that, we recommend that you first meet with the preweds. This meeting need not be long, and you can even do it via email, so long as everybody is communicating clearly. The purpose of this meeting is to:
The following questions will help the couple tell you what you need to know as officiant and will save everybody valuable time.
The answers to these questions will provide all you need to understand the scope of your responsibilities and writing directives.
If the couple doesn't have a wedding planner, chances are one or both of them may be going a little loco planning their wedding. You, as a minister, are in the unique position to be a valuable and helpful resource to the couple, especially when it comes to writing their vows.
You may have never provided wedding vow counsel before. Don't let this hold you back, or make you think you are unqualified. You do not need a philosophy degree to help someone with their wedding vows. All that is involved is an honest conversation, the right questions, and listening.
On that note, follow the steps below for the bet results.
If not, then use the opportunity to give the couple some direction. A great way to do this is to ask...
If the prewed has written their vows then this is a great opportunity to ask…
This is a wonderful opportunity that benefits both parties through collaboration. These conversations will provide insight into the tone of the ceremony and you will help the prewed accomplish a task that can be quite daunting.
Stay in touch. Keep each other accountable. If the prewed planned on writing their vows, but has been procrastinating. Follow up with them. They won't resent a helpful reminder to get it done.