Wedding Ceremony in a Graveyard? We asked our ministers and couples what they thought...
Published: Tuesday, Feb. 25th, 2020
When we were asked if we had any tips on “planning a cemetery wedding ceremony,” it raised a few eyebrows. But the more we thought about it, the more it made sense. For many cultures, celebration of the afterlife is a big part of their spiritual practice, and graveyards are places where the living can connect with their history and ancestors.
Ram Dass taught us that “In our Western culture, although death has come out of the closet, it is still not openly experienced or discussed.”
Michel de Montaigne, another philosopher who challenged us to think more deeply about life wrote that, “we are in death, whilst we are in life.”
Why not double down on that philosophy and tie the knot surrounded by the symbols of death?...(continued)
Couples: How to Work Best With Your Wedding Officiant
Published: Friday, Jan. 24th, 2020
Working closely with your wedding officiant is a must, but a lot of couples don’t quite know how to navigate or coordinate their timeline with their wedding officiant’s. We’re here to give you some pointers so that you know what to expect, and how to get a head start on your ceremony planning.
What Your Officiant is Responsible For:
• Working with you up until the wedding to craft your ceremony.
• Being present and performing your ceremony on your wedding day (and rehearsal, ideally).
• Assisting with the signing and filing of the completed marriage license.
First, Consider This
What type of ceremony do you want? Religious, Non-denominational, or Civil?...(continued)
Did I Just Say That? -- 3 Ways to Handle Wedding Ceremony Mistakes
Published: Friday, Oct. 4th, 2019
It happens to the best of us… we make a goof while delivering a wedding ceremony. It may be missing a word (or words), it may be pronouncing something incorrectly, or perhaps it’s a matter of losing our place in the ceremony. We’ve all been there. You’re not alone, so if it happens, don’t worry!
But truthfully, 95% of the time, it is not the goof that matters, but how you handle it. So, here are some tips:
This is sometimes tough but if you realize you made a mistake or lose your place, staying calm will prevent you from making more mistakes. If you let yourself get flustered by the one mistake, you increase the likelihood of making more mistakes. If you have to, wait till you get to a natural pause point (e.g. the end of a paragraph), take a deep breath, quickly center yourself, and then move on.
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Breathe in, Breathe Out: Calming Brides' and Grooms' Nerves
Published: Thursday, Sep. 5th, 2019
We recently worked with a bride that straight up warned us that she might have a panic attack during the wedding ceremony!
Spoiler alert, she was just fine, and the wedding ceremony went off without a hitch! But as anybody who has experience with these matters can attest, nerves are a huge part of the ceremony experience and it’s best to address the problem head on, and find a solution that works for the couple. That way, everyone is relaxed and happy on the big day.
Our first line of advice is the following: Your wedding is going to be an emotional day and there will be plenty of nerves to go around. Once you accept that, you can create a plan to address or accomodate these feelings, because they are natural.
Let’s get started......(continued)
Thinking About Having an Unplugged Wedding Ceremony?
Published: Friday, Mar. 29th, 2019
The discussion of mobile devices - specifically, guests taking pictures and videos during the wedding - has been covered on many sites by many people, but there’s still a perspective missing from that conversation that we want to offer here on American Weddings. We asked around the office and between us, we’ve officiated dozens of wedding ceremonies, including a number of unplugged ones, and there’s a reason that so many couples are having this conversation.
Obviously, the focus of this post is on the wedding ceremony portion of the special day and we are not here to encourage or discourage an "unplugged ceremony"… we just want to present the facts. Regardless of what you decide, it will impact how the ceremony transpires, how the professional photographer responds, and other important planning decisions.
Consider the following:...(continued)