Russell L Bennett

The Wedding of Annu Grewal and Ryan Pruden

Saturday, February 29, 2020

The Westin Hapuna Beach Resort, Waimea, HI

GATHERING

Beginning of the Wedding Ceremony, Annu and Ryan, family and friends gather to share this commitment to love.

INVOCATION

Welcome, everyone - family and loved ones. We are gathered here today, surrounded by the beauty of creation and nurtured by the sights and sounds of nature. We gather on this “leap year day” a special day the comes only once every four years. It is a special day which calls us to stop, reflect, and to be present. It is in this natural beauty and on this special day we gather to celebrate the joining of Annu Grewal and Ryan Pruden in marriage. Certainly, a special moment for such a special day.

Today is a celebration. A celebration of love, of commitment, of friendship, of family, and of two people who are on this journey forever.

You don't have to have a ceremony to have a marriage. And when you think about it, the whole thing is kind of weird, right? You're standing in front of everyone, looking fancy, wearing beautiful flowers, and being stared at by all of us – people who you hold near and dear. So why do we do it? The marriage ceremony has been an important feature across nearly every culture, religion, generation, and society. We have thousands of important moments that happen throughout our lives, but this one is regarded as one so critical, we acknowledge its special status by sharing it with others. Why this moment?

Because despite all of our differences, love is what we all share. It's the great unifier - our one universal truth. That no matter who we are, where we've come from, what we believe, we know this one thing: love is what we're doing right. That's why you both are standing here.

That's why you all are here to watch them and surround them. We have all loved in our lifetimes, and in this moment, we're reminded that the ability to love is the very best part of all that connects each one of us.

All of us here today have our own love stories. Some are short, others long. Some are yet unwritten, while others are just getting to the good part. There are chapters in all of our stories that are sad or disappointing - and others that are exciting and full of adventure.

These stories bring us to this beautiful place, they bring us to this day, and to this moment. This is a time to pause, look back, and smile at all the moments that brought you here. And a time to look ahead at all the moments that are still to come.

I'm here - we're all here - because we want those moments for you. We're here to hope with you, to support you, to be proud of you, and to remind you that love isn't happily ever after, love is the experience of writing your story. It's not one moment - not even this moment. It's every moment. Big ones like saying 'I love you,' moving in together, getting engaged, jumping out of airplanes - but mostly a million little ones that come in between the big moments. Falling asleep next to one another, making dinner together, holding hands, being spontaneous, spending holidays with your families, four wheeling to a green Hawaiian beach, taking care of each other when you feel bad, getting a big hug for no reason at all … These everyday moments – “these love moments” - come together into one big experience.

And even though this experience – standing here this very moment - is so incredible, words fail us when we try and explain it. That's just the way it is with love - it's meant to be felt, not described.

But trying to describe love is one of our favorite pastimes. We use the words we have to write stories, and poems, and songs about love. And even though we describe love in different ways - and even though love can look different from one person to the next - we all know it when we see it. And we see it here.

You fell in love by chance, but you're here today because you're making a choice. You both are choosing each other. You've chosen to be with someone who enhances you, who makes you think, makes you smile, and makes every day brighter. You're about to make promises to each other. You're going to vow to take care of each other, to stand up for one another, to have fun with each other, and find happiness in the other. There's a simple premise to each of these promises: you're vowing to be there. You're teaming up and saying to the other, 'Every experience I am going to have, I want you to be a part of.'

DECLARATION OF INTENT

Annu and Ryan , please join hands, look at one another now and remember this moment in time.

Will you, Annu, keep Ryan as your favorite person - to laugh with him, go on adventures with him, support him/her through life's tough moments, be proud of him, grow old with him, and find new reasons to love him every day?

Annu: I will

Will you, Ryan , keep Annu as your favorite person - to laugh with her, go on adventures with her, support her through life's tough moments, be proud of her, grow old with her, and find new reasons to love her every day?

Ryan: I will

Will you, Annu and Ryan, be each other's partners from this day forward? Will you bring out the best in one another, share your happiest moments together, and love each other absolutely - for the rest of this lifetime and for whatever may come next?

Couple together (Annu & Ryan): We will.

RING EXCHANGE

You've both chosen to wear rings as a reminder of these promises. People often say wedding bands are a perfect circle, with no beginning and no end. But these rings, like your love, did have a beginning. The stones were formed a long time ago deep within the earth.

Eventually, a series of lucky events caused them to rise to the surface, where someone dug them up. Metal was then liquefied in a furnace - molded, cooled, and painstakingly polished. Something beautiful was made from raw elements.

Love is like that. It comes from humble beginnings, and through a combination of serendipity and effort, imperfect beings shape it into something extraordinary. It's the process of making something beautiful where there was once nothing at all. The land on which we stand too was nothing at all, yet over millions of years has become this beautiful paradise. Like your love, this land continues to grow with new life.

As you look at these rings over the years, I hope you remember this process of making “something beautiful where there was once nothing at all.” You've created something invaluable, and just as I know you'll protect these rings, I'm confident you'll protect the love that connects you and that you have shared today.

Annu, as you place this ring on Ryan's finger, repeat these words after me: This ring symbolizes my love for you and the commitments we made today.

Ryan, as you place this ring on Annu's finger, repeat these words after me: This ring symbolizes my love for you and the commitments we made today.

PRONOUNCEMENT

Annu and Ryan, you have come here today, surrounded by all this beauty, among your family, and friends, and have declared your love and commitment to each other. You have given and received rings as a symbol of your promises. By the power of your love and commitment to each other, and by the power vested in me by the State of Hawaii and American Marriage Ministries, I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may now seal your vows with a kiss.

Congratulations. Family and loved ones, I now present to you this newly married couple!!!

RECESSIONAL

End of the Wedding Ceremony.