Garth M Parker
Minister ID: 631116 View Ordination Certificate
Minister ID: 631116 View Ordination Certificate
Officiated by Garth M Parker at Redwood Deck @ Hoyt Arboretum in Portland, Oregon on August 10th, 2019.
"What a great event full of laughter and love. Everyone remember to breathe, relax, and take your time to absorb the entire experience. Don't get caught up on mistakes...these are what make it a wedding to remember."
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Ceremony for Chris and Brittney
Opening words by the Wedding Officiant:
We are gathered here today
To get through this thing called life
Electric word life
It means forever and that's a mighty long time
But I'm here to tell you,
This isn’t regular everyday life,
You are at the wedding of Brittney and Chris
On this gorgeous August day in this sacred grove
Closer to nature and all things holy!
Everybody look up!
All this time
The Sun never says to the Earth,
"You owe me."
With a love like that,
It lights the whole sky.
Everyone, welcome to the Wedding of Brittney & Chris at the Hoyt
Arboretum (rub your eyes, yes, this thing is really HAPPENING!).
Brittney & Chris chose this location because the spirituality that is
embodied in this sanctuary. Surrounded by redwood trees which
possess the ability to speak and listen over generations, their
strength is trust. Our ancestors, our friends, and our families have
all gathered today in this spiritual location that embodies trust, to
celebrate the bonding of hearts and souls and the beauty of
STATEMENT OF INTENT:
My name is reverend GP, also known as Garth, and it is my
extreme honor to be standing before you, gathering today to take
part in , and witness this ceremony that will unite Brittney
and Chris in matrimony.
In the words of Lewis Thomas, “Statistically the probability of any
one of us being here is so small that you would think the mere
fact of existence would keep us all in a contented dazzlement of
surprise. We are alive against the stupendous odds of genetics,
infinitely outnumbered by all the alternates who might, except for
luck, be in our places.”
It is truly a dazzlement to see us all here together and to support
and witness the marriage of Chris and Brittney.
Brittney and Chris are both are feeling very lucky, grateful, and
loved indeed with your presence here today and want to
acknowledge, and thank you all. Everything about today is
happening because of the energy and efforts of this talented
bunch. A special wedding shout-out goes to all of you for the love
and support and hauling of things to this gorgeous spot.
Another special thank you to the families, for raising Brittney and
Chris. I have a pretty strong suspicion that this was no walk in the
park. Without your nurturing and love, they would not be the
inspired and amazing individuals you see before you today.
Why Are YOU Here?:
Each one of you have been invited to participate in this wedding
because of what you have brought and given to Brittney and Chris
throughout their lives as individuals and as a couple.
With your presence, we are all now in a special club. One might
say we are now a rock band (which kind of hurts my ears when I
think about it), or we are now our own League of Love.
These are fantastic notions, but what I feel this special club needs
is a bit more edge...so I will now refer to you, the witnesses, as
The Posse . Surrounded by nature in this heavenly location, The
Posse’s common characteristic and purpose is to support the
loving adventures of Chris and Brittney.
As Tom Robbins said, “ Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won’t
adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its
accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we
should swear to aid and abet. That would mean that security is
out of the question. The words “make” and “stay” become
inappropriate. My love for you has no strings attached. I love you
So by your very being here, you are all accomplices—as if we
hadn’t been already up to this point—and aiders and abettors for
Chris and Brittney as we witness their marriage today.
Seven Blessings by Friends and Family
Before we get down to business, we’re going to recall the ancient
and modern meaning of being within a sacred space, where we
perform one of life’s most daring and enduring rites of passage.
So together, right here, we’re going to make this redwood grove
and where you’re standing, our sacred space.
Chris and Brittney have asked some key members of their Posse
(family members take turns sharing blessings)
This team you’re forming, this expanded life, it doesn’t happen
just by holding on--an open hand holds more than a closed fist,
am I right? So being courageous here in your outlaw treehouse of
love, you’re letting go of fear and judgement, letting go of
opinions from the committee of indecision that swarm within us, to
make something much... much bigger. Life explodes with
awesomeness when we let go of, the “right” answers and
hesitation and worry and anxieties that hold us back.
To love--and to marry--is not to possess or own or lose one’s self
in another. It is to meet in unconditional love, to be fully awake to
who you are. The strength of your commitment enables each of
you to open more readily to the world, beginning an era of new
awesomeness and bigger things for you both.
To Love is to join and separate,
To walk alone and together,
To find a laughing freedom
That lonely isolation does not permit.
It is to be perfectly one's self
And perfectly joined in permanent commitment to another--
and to one's inner self .
Wedding Ring Delivery:
Let’s have those rings, please (cousins)
Chris, hold onto the one you’re going to give Brittney, and
Brittney, hold onto the one you’re going to give Chris.
Hold them up so everyone can see them.
[HAVE CHRIS & BRITTNEY LOOSELY HOLD HANDS]
There are as many symbols for the rings to represent as there are
marriages. In ancient times it was believed that the vein in the 4th
finger of your left hand lead directly to your heart and that by
encircling that finger, your heart is forever touched by the one
who loves you.
They are a symbol to the outside world of your commitment to
each other. They never tarnish because you wear them all the
time and your love never tarnishes—or they do, and they require
polishing just as your marriage needs renewal.
They are perfect circles—and here out in nature, it’s appropriate
to point out perfect circles we find in nature--pond ripples, the sun,
the moon, the iris of your beloved-- and the growth rings of these
Give these rings to each other because you are each other’s
gifts—the best gift in each other’s lives.
When you look at these rings in the years to come, may you
remember the gift of time, and that it takes time, patience and skill
to make your relationship good and beautiful and long-lasting.
May your rings remind you of the great gift that you give to each
other, and all that you have in one another. May your meanings
flow together--in substance and in soul--with the vows you are
about to give each other.
Brittney to Chris
Brittney, begin your vows and then place the ring on Chris’s finger
Chris to Brittney
Chris, begin your vows and then place the ring on Brittney’s finger
Do you both, Chris and Brittney, choose each other to be none
other than yourselves? Loving what you know of each other,
trusting what you do not yet know? Will you walk side by side in
times of adversity and prosperity, in sickness and health, in joy
and happiness, challenge and nurture each other, always be gifts
to each other, and encourage each other’s dreams so long as
love and life shall endure?
[TO CHRIS AND BRITTNEY] And now turn around and look out on your
posse--all these aiders and abettors to your vows.
[MOVE TO SIDE - ADDRESS AUDIENCE]
And you out there! Hey Posse! We are all here to share in this
moment, but we are all here because Chis and Brittney have
invited us to share in their lives as a couple. We have heard
blessings from several members of this posse, but we are ALL
here to share our blessings with Chris and Brittney and our
commitment to being here for them does not end with dinner.
As aiders and abettors, do you promise to be there for Chris and
Brittney as they honor their vows, share your lives, and be gifts to
them to support their commitment? Posse, can I get a WE DO?!
Final commentary by the Wedding Officiant
[MOVE BACK BETWEEN CHRIS & BRITTNEY]
Please hold hands (no kissing yet!)...facing each other
Together you are and together you shall be.
Let there be loving spaces in your togetherness,
Let the light of love, understanding, respect and tolerance shine for both of
Let your families always have more than enough love
And let your days be good and long upon the earth.
Announcement of New Status
[MOVE TO SIDE - ADDRESS AUDIENCE]
With the joy of all present here, and by the power vested in me by
the State of Oregon, and the great honor of being your friends, I
pronounce you MARRIED!! Please enjoy the kissing!
Bride and Groom kiss
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