Louise Jane Krol

INVOCATION

Welcome, family, friends and loved ones. We are gathered here today, surrounded by the beauty of creation and nurtured by the sights and sounds of nature to celebrate the wedding of Zach and Nicole.

You have come here to share in the commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to their union, and to allow Zach and Nicole to start their married life together surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.

Nicole and Zach value your presence here today. They ask for your blessing, encouragement, and lifelong support, of their decision to be married. They remember loved ones they hold dear in their hearts but who cannot be here to share this moment with them today.

Zach and Nicole, marriage is the promise between two people who love each other, who trust that love, who honor one another as individuals in that togetherness, and who wish to spend the rest of their lives together.

It enables two separate souls to share their desires, their longings, dreams, and memories, their joys and sorrows, and to help each other through all uncertainties of life. A strong marriage nurtures each of you as separate individuals and allows you to maintain your unique identity and grow in your own way through the years ahead. It is a safe-haven for each of you to become your best self while together you become better than you ever could be alone.

You are adding to your life not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship and blessing of a deep trust. You are agreeing to share strength, responsibilities and love.

To make this relationship work, therefore, takes more than love. It takes trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so.

And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both.

Before you exchange your vows, I invite Aunt Donna to share a sentiment chosen for Nicole and Zach;

“Love is an Adventure”

Pierre Tielhart de Chardin

“Love is an adventure and a conquest. It survives and develops like the universe itself only by perpetual discovery. The only right love it that between couples whose passion leads them both, one through the other, to a higher possession of their being. Put your faith in the spirit which dwells between the two of you. You have each offered yourself to the other as a boundless field of understanding, of enrichment, of mutually increased sensibility. You will meet above all by entering into and constantly sharing one another’s thoughts, affections, and dreams. There alone as you know, in spirit, which is arrived through flesh, you will find no disappointments, no limits. There alone the skies are ever open for your love; There alone lies the great road ahead.”

DECLARATION OF INTENT

Zach and Nicole wish to share with you the vows they have written to each other

VOWS are read to each other

Zach

Nicole,

I’ve asked to say my vows first because I would like to let you know how much you mean to me.

It seems silly to say that at this point, given we are all gathered here today, but I also wanted to speak first because you have always had a better way with words than I have.

Every birthday or anniversary card you have given me always has a beautiful message to me that my cards could never compare to.

A message in a card is a small gesture when you think about it, but I’ve always cherished every word you have told me in those cards, even though I’m terrible at returning that same feeling.

I know I can usually come up with something witty or sarcastic pretty quick on the fly, but when it comes to matters of the heart my words tend to falter even with time to think about what to say.

That is why I have always tried to express my love for you through my actions rather than words. Like poorly attempting to be a nurse for you when you were laid out from your back.

Making sure you have dinner to eat when you come home from work, most of the time.

And having you drag me around Six Flags after I was sick to my stomach after our second roller coaster ride.

But mostly I try to show my love through smaller actions.

Texting you kisses when I wake up in the morning, or afternoon, and calling you every night before you go to bed to say I love you.

Holding your hands during our park walks or while we drive in the car.

Taking silly selfies in the car when going through the Jones Beach Xmas Light Show.

Begrudgingly letting you warm your freezing cold hands by shoving them up my shirt.

And just by being at your side these passed 5 and a half years.

Through all the ups, and the many downs.

Regardless, everything I have said now, in the past, or will say in the future will never be enough to prove how much I really, truly, love and adore you.

Except, for those two words we are about to say to begin the next chapter in our lives.

I love you Nicole, tons and tons.

Nicole

Zach,

I love you because you are happy, adventurous, and strong.

I love you because you love your family and friends as fiercely as I love mine.

I love that your family has become mine and my family become yours.

You are my best friend and I am so happy we are on the same team.

You are the love of my life and you make me happier than I could have ever imagined and more loved than I ever thought was possible.

You make me unbelievably proud and I promise that I will make you proud as your wife.

I promise to listen to you and learn from you.

I promise to laugh with you and cry with you.

I promise to love you, respect you, support you, and above all else, make sure I’m not just yelling at you because I’m hungry.

I promise to give as much attention to you as I give Bandit.

I promise to listen with an open mind and an open heart.

I promise to be a safe space for your secrets and vulnerabilities.

I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face change in order to keep our adventure alive.

I promise to value our difference just as much as our common ground.

I promise to put all my effort into strengthening our marriage and giving you the best version of Nicole.

Zach, on good days or bad days, rain or shine, I’ll love you forever.

I’m so lucky you’re mine.

Continue after VOWS:

Zachary Russell Day, Do you now take Nicole Rose Kuchler to be your lawfully wedded wife? _____________

Do you promise to love, honor, cherish, and protect her, forsaking all others and holding unto her in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer for as long as you both shall live? _____________

Nicole Rose Kuchler Do you take Zachary Russell Day to be your lawfully wedded husband? __________

Do you promise to love, honor, cherish, and protect him, forsaking all others and holding only unto him in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer for as long as you both shall live? ___________

Zach and Nicole have planned a symbolic

SAND CEREMONY

In this ceremony both Zach and Nicole are represented by a different colored sand, representing their individual lives, with all they were, all they are, and all they will forever be.

They have chosen to willingly empty their individual containers of sand into a single container mixing both colors together symbolizing the joining of their lives for eternity.

Just as the grains of sand can never be separated and returned to their individual containers, so this couple will no longer be two but one, never to be separated from each other.

I now invite Uncle John to share a poem chosen for Nicole and Zach;

“Union”

Robert Fulghum

“You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks – all those sentences that began with.. “When we’re married” and continued with “I will and you will and we will” – Those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you ae about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after all these vows, you shall say to the world,

This is my husband,

This is my wife.”

RING EXCHANGE

Rings are made of precious metal, but that same metal is also made precious by wearing them. Your wedding rings are special because they enhance who you are. They mark the beginning of your long journey together. Your wedding ring is a circle, a symbol of love never ending. It is the seal of the vows you have just taken to love each other without end.

May I have the rings?

Zachary, please place the ring on Nicole 's left hand.

Know that by placing this ring on her finger, you do this as a sign of your love and that you have chosen her above all else.

Nicole, please place the ring on Zachary 's left hand.

Know that by placing this ring on his finger, you do this as a sign of your love and that you have chosen him above all else.

PRONOUNCEMENT

Zach and Nicole, you have come here today of your own free will and in the presence of family and friends, you have declared your love and commitment to each other. You have given and received a ring as a symbol of your promises. By the power of your love and commitment to each other, and by the power vested in me, by the State of New York and the American Marriage Ministries, I now pronounce you officially husband and wife.

Zachary, you may now kiss your bride.

Ladies and Gentlemen. It is my honor and privilege to introduce to you for the first time, Mr. and Mrs. Zachary and Nicole Day !

RECESSIONAL

End of the Wedding Ceremony.