Stephanie Lyn Lurz

Who is here to present these men to one another ? Mothers reply: We do.

We are gathered here today, in the presence of family and friends to join Wade and Beau in holy matrimony. We celebrate the coming together in love of these two men. We remember that marriage is a time when growing love is made public, when two people share mutual promises. We join in our support of them as they offer themselves to each other. We celebrate their joy and their love!

Declaration of Intent

Wade and Beau, I would like to share a poem called The Day.

May this be the start of a happy new life

That’s full of special moments to share

May this be the first of your dreams come true

And of hope that will always be there….

May this be the start of a lifetime of trust

And of caring that’s just now begun…..

May today be a day that you’ll always remember

The day when your hearts become one.

Beau and Wade is your intention to join your hearts together as one in the sanctity of holy matrimony? Do you stand before your families and closest friends, freely and openly to take one another today as husbands? Reply: We do

Vow Exchange

Beau repeat after me…..I Beau, take you Wade, to be my husband. I promise to always be by your side on any adventure that life takes us on. I promise to be the first to offer you help, even when I don’t want to, to make you smile when times are down and to laugh with you when times are good. I promise to support your dreams, celebrate our unity, and embrace our differences.

Wade repeat after me…I Wade, take you Beau, to be my husband. I promise to always be by your side on any adventure that life takes us on. I promise to give you my whole emotional being, even when it is difficult for me, to make you smile when times are down and to laugh with you when times are good. I promise to support your dreams, celebrate our unity, and embrace our differences.

Ring Exchange

Wade place the ring on Beau’s finger and repeat after me….With this ring, I marry you. You are the love of my life, and you are my very best friend. This ring is a promise that from this day forward you will never walk alone. My heart will be your shelter and my arms will be your home.

Beau place the ring on Wade’s finger and repeat after me…With this ring, I marry you. You are the love of my life, and you are my very best friend. This ring is a promise that from this day forward you will never walk alone. My heart will be your shelter and my arms will be your home.

Sand Ceremony

Beau and Wade, today you are making a lasting commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other. That commitment is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand; one that represents Wade(who now pours in some of his/her sand) and the other that represents Beau, (who pours some of his/her sand on top).

Each of you comes to this relationship with unique strengths, vulnerabilities, and histories. As individuals, you are beautiful people all on your own. Yet when the two of you are blended together, you form something even more beautiful. Those strengths can blossom, those vulnerabilities can be cared for, and those people can soar.

As the two containers of sand are poured into the vase, (both participants simultaneously pour their remaining sand in the central vase) the separate colors of sand now blend into a new color. You have now blended your families into a new family, as you start your journey in marriage, loving and strong as husbands, as inseparable as these grains of sand.

Closing words

Love is a force more formidable than any other. It cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession ever could. But although this love joins you together as one, remember the gift of your individuality. Cherish and affirm your differences as you love each other. Be supportive of your strengths, and tender towards your weaknesses. Laugh together, cry together, be comforted by each other's presence, and secure in each other's absence.

May you always need one another, not so much to fill the emptiness as to help each other know your fullness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you embrace one another, but not encircle on another. May you succeed in all important ways with each other, and not fail in the little graces. Look for things to praise, often say I love you, and take no notice of small faults. May you have happiness, and may you find it in making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it in loving one another.

Pronouncement

We have now come to the moment that you two and everyone here have been waiting for for the last two years. I have the privilege through the power that has been vested in me by the State of Nebraska and the American Marriage Ministries to pronounce you husbands! You may seal your marriage with a kiss! It is my honor to be the first to introduce you all to The Bierman-Berrgren’s!!