Bruce Robert Montgomery

Molly and Adam’s Wedding Script

PROCESSION:

[Start of the Wedding Ceremony - The guests are seated followed by the entrance of the wedding party. Keith plays processional music. Bruce enters from in front. Adam seats his mother, grandmother and Jackie, joins Bruce at front. Followed by Groomsmen and Bridesmaids down the aisle. Molly, escorted by her dad, comes down the aisle to the

Wedding March)

OPENING REMARKS:

Bruce:

Welcome family and friends who have traveled from near and far to be here with us tonight. I know your presence means the world to Molly and Adam. We are all honored to be a part of their public pronouncement of their love and commitment to each other.

Today, we are privileged witnesses, as they proclaim their love for all the world to see.

PARENT’S BLESSING:

Bruce- (to Philip and Jackie)

“Marriage is a bond to be entered into only after serious thought and reflection. Knowing this, who supports Molly as she and Adam take this next step together?”

Philip: “Her mother and I do.”

(Molly and Adam join at the front)

FAMILY & FRIENDS BLESSING:

Bruce: (Addressing Lou, Philip and Jackie)

Parents…….. Lou Pointer…….…Philip & Jackie…..

Recognizing the significance of the commitment that Adam and Molly are about to make.

Creating their own family and drawing on the lessons you shared with them throughout their lives.

They will always be your children, but today the nature of that relationship will change.

Your daughter is becoming a wife, and your son is becoming a husband.

Therefore, will you promise to give both of them your love, support, encouragement and heartfelt blessing?

If so, please answer by saying, “We will.”

Parents: “We will”

Bruce: (Addressing entire assembled audience)

All of you, the family and friends of Adam and Molly, understanding the significance and commitment they are about to make…..

Will you give both of them your love, support, encouragement and heartfelt blessings?

If so, please answer by saying, “We Will”.

All Guests: “We Will”

Bruce: And now, a blessing & reading from Deacon Dave Penton:

DAVE PENTON BLESSING

and

Reading – Proverbs 3:3-4

REMBRANCE:

Bruce:

Thank you, Deacon.

Adam and Molly are grateful for all the loved ones whose guidance made them the people they are today.

Although some of their loved ones have been separated from them physically……faith and love have bound them eternally.

Tonight we pause to reflect upon the loved ones who have shaped our character, molded our spirits and touched our hearts.

Though we cannot see you……. we know you are here.

Though we cannot touch you…….we feel the warmth of your smile.

We will always remember the everlasting impact you have made upon us.

THE HAPPY COUPLE’S STORY:

So by now, you’ve noticed the softball and baseball theme in the decorations. There’s a good reason for that………

Molly and Adam met at a softball game!

Well…….there’s a little disagreement between the two (probably their last), regarding whether they’d met briefly before this, but for all intents and purposes, they met on the night Adam, who played professional baseball, was invited to offer a few tips to Molly’s team.

Adam gave Molly some advice that evening, and she ended up having the game winning hit. They were off to a good start.

At the time, both Molly and Adam had pretty much given up trying to find their soul mates. So when they talked after the game, they were just two folks chatting with no other pressures. They talked like they had known each other forever.

Molly was impressed by how Adam was genuinely interested in her, and wasn’t giving her any wild pick up lines.

As the game was late, they were both hungry, and decided to grab something at Whataburger (it’s like McDonalds or Hardees). They hit it off so well, they stayed there talking until 4AM! 4AM!

Adam, who was well known for NOT sharing his food with anyone, actually allowed Molly to try a bite of his taquito. Even he was shocked he allowed her to do that. But obviously something was different between these two.

As their relationship progressed, they spent hours on the phone. They lived pretty far apart in Houston (and traffic is terrible there, unlike Swea City), so they’d meet halfway to spend time with one another.

Unfortunately Adam’s dad passed away during their time in Houston. It was tough for him and his family, yet at the same time Adam made sure to include Molly. She saw that family was important to him, and that it was also important to include HER in his family.

In time they moved to Swea City and started their family, with little Monty. Who, by the way, is doing a great job as ring bearer tonight, don’t you think?

Molly and Adam both see siblings for Monty in their future, and are excited to grow their family, as they continue to grow together.

Adam said, he’d do anything to protect and care for Molly, saying quote, “after all, that’s my girl, and I love her to death.”

He says Molly is the perfect compliment to him. She’s sweet, big hearted and strong all at the same time.

Molly says he is very supportive and helpful. She knows they are in this together. They are a real team. She can’t wait to see him every night after work to talk with him and share their days with each other.

He’s honest, upfront, committed to making it work, and a fantastic dad………………

Before this gets too long, let me wrap it up with a brief recounting of their engagement.

Adam, a big Texas Longhorn fan, had arranged for all of Molly’s family to attend the Texas/Iowa State game last November, in Ames. Everyone was going to be there who was available.

Along the way to the game, they stopped to pick up a new Iowa State sweatshirt for Molly and some other things for the others. The sweatshirt was a big part of Adam’s plan.

At a certain point, Kelsey was supposed to say, “Hey, it’s getting a little chilly” and suggest to Molly she should put on her new sweatshirt. Molly had pretty much given up on the idea of getting an engagement ring the weekend before, after Kelsey, Joe, she and Adam had gone to a really nice restaurant, and no proposal happened. So she suspected nothing.

The trouble is….it was 70 degrees that November day……and Molly was having nothing to do with putting on a sweatshirt. She flat out refused.

Adam persevered and dropped to one knee, and asked her to marry him. Molly was very surprised and embarrassed, saying, “Get up! Get up! What are you doing???!! Follow by, YES, YES, YES!

Success!!!

So despite the unseasonably warm weather in Ames, here they are before us today.

A team.

Ready to work together to continue to build, and strengthen their relationship………… and their family.

RULES OF MARRIAGE:

Bruce:

However, unlike in sports, there is no rule book for a successful marriage.

In sports, a player is wise to seek advice from more experienced players and coaches.

The same is true with marriage and relationships as

tried and true lessons have been learned through the years.

Here are a few that Molly and Adam’s friends and family wanted to share with them to help them be successful:

Philip and Jackie’s advice:

Our advice for success in marriage comes with almost 38 years experience…

always give each other your mutual respect!

Listening to each other with open ears is key!!!

You absolutely must be willing and able to comprise!

Never do anything to make the other lose their trust!!!!

Be willing to support your partner in every thing they do!

Throw around compliments like confetti!

Love love and more love!!!

PS put down your phones and give your spouse your full and complete attention!!!!!!

Nicole:

Don't go to bed mad

Date night is Extremely important. (she emphasized this one)

Marriage is not easy, it takes work and compromise DAILY

Aunt Stacie and Uncle Tom

Marriage takes 100% from each partner, not 50/50!

Remember to listen to understand, not to reply!

If you must fight, do it naked!

The wedding is just one day, the marriage is forever!

Wishing you both a lifetime of happiness. 

Brittany Paulsen

Always be willing to grow and learn, and never stop trying.

Cortney and Travis:

Marriage is hard! No one ever said it was going to be easy.

It’s frustrating, complicated and stressful, but it is so worth it! You always have your best friend by your side.

You may not always agree, you may not always get along. Just remember, compromise. You are not always going to be right, it will not always go your way.

In the heat of the moment, walk away, take a deep breath, calm down and come back to the conversation later. Let each other have your own time, everyone needs a break and time to get away.

Go on dates! Your relationship should always comes first! Even before the kids.

The family needs a solid foundation and that comes from your relationship.

Julie Runksmeier

❤️ Scheduled date nights

❤️ Pray together

❤️ Never assume they know how you are feeling- communicate

❤️ Remember, no one is perfect. Be willing to forgive

❤️ Laugh

❤️ One thing you should do behind each other’s back… pray for them

We not me

Joe and Kelsie Johnson

1. Never go to bed angry with your spouse. 

2. Communication is key! 

3. Continue dating your spouse, even after you're married.

Kelsey:

When things get rough that doesn't mean that it's over. It means that your relationship is shifting, and you need to learn how to grow with each other. 

Your love doesn't need to be contributing the same things it just needs to be that you're both contributing something.

Be kind. Always. (Even when it’s hard - I’m still working on this haha) 

From Barb:

“Well I suppose my advice is to not fight. Allen and I never fought.”

“I guess just listen to your husband and do whatever he wants.”

From Joe:

When you are fighting—recognize that no matter how sure you are that you are right, there’s a chance that you are wrong. People are fallible.

2) Always make sure you are aligned on spending/savings goals.

You can’t sail the ocean with a hole in your boat.

3) Ensure you have adequate life insurance coverage.

4) Realize that your life is no longer your own. Carefully consider your spouse in all decision-making.

5) Make decisions together, slowly. Never rush large decisions.

6) Don’t buy a house at the bottom of a hill.

and finally

7) Do whatever your husband says. It worked for Barb, and it feels like good advice to me.

Bruce:

Thank you everyone. It’s really hard to argue with any of this advice.

Just remember guys, that every game is different and you’ll be called upon to be your best whatever the circumstances.

When you are in a pickle, stop for a second and remember these words of wisdom.

VOWS:

Bruce:

Well Adam and Molly, we are rounding 2nd and heading for third now. It’s time for your sacred vows to one another.

Adam, you’re up first.

Molly, you’re on deck.

Do either of your need any pine tar or rosin?

Adam please repeat after me:

Molly, you are my best friend in life and my one true love.

I promise to cherish our friendship and love……… today, tomorrow and forever.

I will love you faithfully through laughter and tears, through joy and sorrow.

I will stand by your side, even if the Packers are playing. I will trust and honor you.

I will laugh with you and I will cry with you, especially when the Cyclones lose.

No matter what may come, I will always be there for you.

As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

Bruce:

Well…….. Adam crushed that one into the gap.

Your turn Molly. You can do it. Keep your eye on the ball.

Molly, please repeat after me:

Adam, you are my best friend in life and my one true love.

I promise to cherish our friendship and love……. today, tomorrow and forever.

I will love you faithfully through laughter and tears, through joy and sorrow.

I will stand by your side, even if the 49er’s are playing. I will trust and honor you.

I will laugh with you and I will cry with you, especially when the Astros lose.

No matter what may come, I will always be there for you.

As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

Well done. Well done. Now the easy part. Please take each other’s hands.

DECLARATION OF INTENT:

(Bruce to Adam, Adam take Molly’s hands in yours please)

Adam, do you take Molly to be your lawfully wedded partner,

to have and to hold,

in sickness and in health,

in good times and bad,

for richer or poorer,

for as long as you both shall live?"

(Adam to Molly)

"I do”

(Bruce to Molly)

“Molly do you take Adam to be your lawfully wedded partner,

to have and to hold,

in sickness and in health,

in good times and bad,

for richer or poorer,

for as long as you both shall live?"

(Molly to Adam) "I do”

RING CEREMONY:

Bruce:

Marriage is a state in which two people come together and create a team that is greater than the sum of its parts.

As love is so difficult a concept to express in mere words, we use symbols.

Since the dawn of humanity, the ring has been an emblem of the sincerity and permanence of the couple’s love for one another and the lasting value of their marriage.

As the circle can begin anew at any point, so marriage can always be renewed.

These rings are symbols of your eternal love.

The rings, please.

As you, Adam place this ring on Molly’s finger, please repeat after me:

I promise to you, Molly,

before our family and friends,

to commit my love to you;

to respect your individuality;

to be with you through life’s changes;

and to nurture and strengthen the love between us,

as long as we both shall live.

And Molly, as you place this ring on Adam’s finger, please repeat after me:

I promise to you, Adam,

before our family and friends,

to commit my love to you;

to respect your individuality;

to be with you through life’s changes;

and to nurture and strengthen the love between us,

as long as we both shall live.

UNITY CERMONY:

Bruce:

As Adam and Molly join together, so do their families and friends. As a symbol of this unity and a reminder of how they met, they will now brand a unity bat with their own personal brand.

Accompanying them will be a version of Ken Berns’ Baseball Documentary adapted as a poem.

Elaine: Baseball poem pre-recorded.

After the branding:

Wow! That was cool. Thank goodness we didn’t burn the place down!!

PRONOUNCEMENT:

Bruce:

Adam and Molly, you’ve rounded third now, and your friends and family are giving you the green light. It’s time to head for home.

Having spoken the words and performed the rites that unite your lives, I do hereby, in accordance with your beliefs, and the laws of the State of Iowa, declare your marriage to be valid and binding, and I declare you Adam and Molly to be husband and wife.

You may touch home plate and kiss the bride!!

(touch home plate, kiss)

Bruce: Ladies and Gentlemen, Please join me in celebrating Mr. and Mrs. Adam and Molly Pointer!!!

(Wedding March, M & A march out followed by wedding party, etc)

Whew.