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The Declaration of Intent is the part of the wedding ceremony when the officiant asks the couple if they want to marry each other. In other words, the couple declares their intent to marry.
If you are officiating a wedding for a same-sex or trans couple, getting the wording right is of utmost importance. If there are two grooms or brides, they may be fine with using the terms "Husband" and "Wife". Alternatively you can use words like "Partner", and "Life-Mate"..
Work with the couple in advance to establish their preferred pronouns.
(Officiant to the Groom)
"Do you take this woman to be your lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer keeping yourself unto her for as long as you both shall live? If so answer 'I do'."
(Groom To the Bride)
(Officiant to the Bride)
"Do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer keeping yourself unto him for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer I do."
(Bride To the Groom)
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