Jessica M GallicchioView Ordination Certificate
Minister ID: 647549-384187
Minister ID: 647549-384187
Officiated by Jessica M Gallicchio in New Jersey on May 27th, 2017.
"This was my first wedding. I thought it went well, there were a few points where my inexperience was clear, but overall it was a nice ceremony. "
I want to welcome everyone here today, from New Mexico to right here in Bergen County and everyone traveling in between. Thank you for attending this event and for sharing in this commitment Mark and Nicole are making to one another.
A little bit ago, Nicole posted a meme on my facebook that I think summed up our friendship pretty well. It said "You're the kind of friend that if I declare the floor to be hot lava, you'll act as though the floor is actually hot lava. Which is cool, because some people act like it's not, even though I just said it is. At the top, was the comment "you are that friend". We are actually both that friend to each other and with each other.
I met Mark through Nicole when she started dating him. Mark and I were able to bond quickly over beer, and more recently whiskey, which are both delightful ways for a bond to form. But it was the fact that a bond did form with Mark, outside of Nicole's and I's friendship that really showed me the strength of the bond they have with each other and how permanent this bond is.
Nicole and Mark complement each other. It's as simple and beautiful as that. They fill in each other's peaks and valleys to make a smooth solid partnership.
In her decision to Goodridge v. Dept. of Public Health, Chief Justice Margaret Marshall of the Massachusetts Supreme Court had appropriate words regarding the institution of marriage, here is an excerpt.
Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support; it brings stability to our society. For those who choose to marry, and for their children, marriage provides an abundance of legal, financial, and social benefits. In return it imposes weighty legal, financial, and social obligations… Without question, civil marriage enhances the “welfare of the community.” It is a “social institution of the highest importance.”
Marriage also bestows enormous private and social advantages on those who choose to marry. Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family… Because it fulfills yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.
And now Kevin Mitchel, groomsman and instigator of this union…
“The Wonders of Today” by Larry Chengges
If you can always be as close
and happy as today,
Yet be secure enough to grow
and change along the way…
If you can keep for you alone
your love as man and wife.
yet find the time to share your joy,
with others in your life….
If you can be as one,
and walk through marriage
hand in hand,
yet still support the goals and dreams
that each of you have planned…
If you can dare to always go
your separate ways together
Then all the wonders of today
will stay with you forever..
Two friends of Nicole and Mark have prepared a song, Dan (Shi-men-toe) and Mike (Cap-you-juan-oh)
Dan and Mike
“Can You Feel The Love Tonight” by Elton John
"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks—all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married,” and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will”—all those late-night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe”—and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.
The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed—well, I meant it all, every word.”
Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another—acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.
For after today you shall say to the world, “This is my husband.” “This is my wife.”
May I have the rings?
Nicole, please place the ring on Mark's finger.
Nicole, do you take Mark to be your husband? (I do.)
Mark, please place the ring on Nicole's finger.
Mark, do you take Nicole to be your wife? (I do.)
I ask of you both:
Do you promise to choose each other every day, to love each other in word and deed? (We do.)
Do you promise to recognize one another as equals, and support one another in your goals and wishes for the future? (We do.)
Do you promise to always share your thoughts, and feelings, and concerns with the other, and be open and honest at all times? (We do.)
Do you promise that come hell or high water, secession or recession, federal indictment or tabloid scandal, zombie apocalypse or borg invasion, that you’re in this together, no matter what? (We do.)
To the audience: And do you, friends and family gathered here, pledge to love and support this couple across this new threshold and into their experiences beyond? (WE DO.)
It is my humble honor and pleasure to declare you married. You may seal your vows with a kiss. Please stand and congratulate the newly married couple!